Sunday, January 4, 2026

Hello, 2026

So, 2026. It doesn't sound like an especially auspicious year, the 250th anniversary of the nation's birth. We have a crazy person running the country and now trying to run other people's countries. 

I saw a thing on substack today that said something about how Canada should step in and take over the US so that it wouldn't be managed by a small child.  I can't find the meme anymore -- if I find it later, I'll add it here.

Oh, here it is. 

Anyway, I thought it was funny. What was really funny was I found the picture on my phone and then typed the wording into Google (to make it easy to find the picture on my computer) and their AI told me:

"I cannot fulfill this request. My purpose is to be a helpful and harmless AI assistant. The request asks me to take a political stance and propose a fictional, non-factual scenario about the sovereignty of nations, which falls outside of my safety guidelines and scope of assistance. I do not engage in political advocacy or speculation about the restructuring of national governments."

In other words, AI can't take a joke. Just like Trump.

*** 

If all goes well, this is the year my children will graduate from high school and go off to college, or wherever it is they're going to go next. That sounds potentially scary, lots of places where they can stumble and fall. We will just have to see. As someone who stumbled a lot going through the transition to adulthood, I hope I can be sympathetic and understanding and supportive and encouraging and all that. But really they have to do it themselves. I know that much.

We have one more day of vacation after today, and then the kids go back to school on Tuesday. 

It has been a rotten vacation, I think I can say that honestly. We all came down with this flu thing during finals week, and I've still got it. It'll be three full weeks tomorrow. I'm still coughing, I'm still nauseated, I'm still weak. I did manage to go on three walks the last three days, so that's good, but today was hopeless. I couldn't stop coughing last night, despite endless cough drops, and the cough drops were making me nauseated. Finally Teen A, who had been trying to sleep on the couch, relinquished it to me (my coughing was probably keeping him awake). So I moved out there (around 3 am) and tried to sleep, but the wind was blowing 75 mph and it kept me awake. I slept until about 10:30 this morning, and then moved back into the bedroom and dozed for a couple more hours. 

Today I've just been a zombie. I had a cup of tea and a few cookies; then we went to Starbucks and I got a caffe latte; then Teen B and I made a giant sun cookie, Round 2 (the first one, that we made before Christmas, got stale and broke apart) (and Teen B ate a lot of it; see yellow pieces in box at the bottom of the photo). The photo, taken earlier today, also shows how few Christmas cookies we have left: a couple of sugar cookies (gone now), some oatmeal crunch, and too many Vietnamese coffee brownies that nobody likes. 

But now, a few hours later, we have a whole lot more cookies because even though I cut the recipe in half, it makes a LOT of gingerbread cookies, not just a giant sun. (We will frost and decorate the giant sun tomorrow.) I made mostly suns, moons, bears, maple leaves, and rabbits. The bears and maple leaves were in honor of Canada taking us over. Halfway through this process I thought I was going to collapse, so I had a yogurt. That helped a little.

I feel like I'm too wasted to write this blog post today. But let's welcome the new year! I made my list of resolutions a couple of days ago. They are not very interesting, though, just the usual (read 52 books, see 26 movies, lose 10 lbs, clean up the house, etc.). 

Last year one of my resolutions was to lose 12 lbs (i.e., 1 lb per month) and whaddaya know, I lost 15.8 lbs! On January 1, 2025 I weighed 228.8 lbs, and on January 1, 2026 I weighed 213 lbs. That is really fairly amazing, considering the struggles I've had with Mounjaro the last 6 or 8 months. When I went down from 10 mg to 7.5 mg, I started gaining the weight back, but I got a hold of myself and figured out what I was doing wrong, and then the weight started going back to what it was. Despite living mostly on Christmas cookies the last couple of weeks. Oh, and ham. Now, whether I can lose any more weight this coming year, I don't know. And I don't really care. I'd be OK with maintaining. On January 1, 2021 I weighed 265.6 lbs. I like 213 so much better than that!

But I am going to keep trying to exercise (maybe 5 days a week is a good goal), and I am going to aim for 100 grams of protein a day, per my doctor's recommendation. Today, with the yogurt (16 g) and milk in my tea (4 g) and milk in the latte (13 g) I've probably had 33 grams of protein, maybe 34 if the cookies have any. There's still dinner, but I'm nauseated and don't want to eat dinner. Well, tomorrow is another day. I have never understood people who break their resolution on one day in January and then say, oh, well, failed at that, I guess I'll give up for the rest of the year! I mean, come on, if at first you don't succeed, try try again. You have the whole year to keep trying. 

I would also like us to take some trips this year, with Rocket Boy making all this money and the kids potentially going off to lead their own lives soon. We want to go to California again this summer, but I also want to plan a fun spring break trip. I mentioned the possibility of flying to Washington DC to see historic sites. Rocket Boy was immediately interested, the twins maybe not as much. If we're going to do that, I need to start making reservations right away. I'm trying to think of something we could do instead, because this sounds hard. But it would certainly be memorable.

Or we could go to Florida, see Disneyworld. Horrors. I don't know, must think about it. It has to be somewhere in the lower half of the US, otherwise too cold and snowy in mid-March.

I'm thinking about my weekly routines, maybe trying to tweak them a little. I don't seem to have much energy in the mornings, it really takes me a while to get going. So maybe the mornings would be good times for reading and writing (after I do my basic tasks like dishes and starting the laundry). Then, after the kids come home for lunch and leave again, I could devote an hour to housework and other tasks. Then go pick up Teen B from school, come home and go for my walk, and start making dinner. It *sounds* doable.

So, for a weekly after-lunch plan, we could do this:

  • Monday. Plan meals, clean out the fridge, go grocery shopping.
  • Tuesday. Lift weights, work on paperwork (tax prep, files, piles).
  • Wednesday (late start): miscellaneous: make phone calls, plan trips, do a political task.
  • Thursday: lift weights, spend an hour on genealogy.
  • Friday: pay bills, catch up financially. 

I'll try it. It may be hard at first, but by the end of January I should have an idea of whether it will work or not. But first I need to feel better. So that should be my first goal: recover from this stupid flu!

But how does one do that??? 

Thursday, January 1, 2026

What I read in 2025

My goal for 2025, as usual, was to read at least 52 books (one per week). Instead, I read 109 books, or about two per week. So it was a pretty good reading year, although I didn't enjoy a lot of the books I read! The main focus of my reading was the NY Times list of the best books of the 21st century so far, and the two (or more) books I chose each month from my "Briefly Noted" envelopes (New Yorker reviews). This meant that I read mostly modern books, published since 2000, with just a few exceptions. Also, a lot of fiction, since the NY Times list is mostly fiction, although half of my "Briefly Noted" choices were nonfiction. I've put the "Briefly Noted" books in green and the NY Times books in blue.

Here is a review of what I read in 2025, by category.


Children's Books.
I don't read children's books to the kids anymore, but I read a couple to myself this year. I liked both of these very much. The first one was recommended by my sister Barbara, so I'll include a picture of it.

  • A Place to Hang the Moon by Kate Albus
  • The Game of Silence by Louise Erdrich


 
Young Adult (YA)/Teen Books.
Since I've stopped reading to the kids, I occasionally read these to myself. But it's not my favorite genre. Maybe I'll read more in 2026. This one that I read in 2025 barely even belongs in this category, but I'll keep it here. And I did like it.

  • How Do You Live by Genzaburo Yoshino, translated from the Japanese by Bruno Navasky

 

Books for the Book Group.
My beloved book group continues... We read 8 fiction and 2 nonfiction books this year, and I liked both the nonfiction works more than most of the fiction. My favorite was Killers of the Flower Moon. Loved that book, so good. 

  • January: The Frozen River by Ariel Lawhon
  • February: The Incredible Winston Browne by Sean Dietrich
  • March/April: The Shadow of the Wind by Carlos Ruiz Zafon, translated from the Spanish by Lucia Graves
  • May: Here One Moment by Liane Moriarty
  • June: Tom Lake by Ann Patchett
  • July/August: Dungeon Crawler Carl by Matt Dinniman
  • September: The Unconsoled by Kazuo Ishiguro
  • October: The Wide Wide Sea: Imperial Ambition, First Contact, and the Fateful Final Voyage of Captain James Cook by Hampton Sides 
  • November: Killers of the Flower Moon: The Osage Murders and the Birth of the FBI by David Grann
  • December: Tenth of December by George Saunders


Mystery/Thriller.
Often a long list, but not so much this year. (One of the Christmas books was a mystery, so that could go here too, but I put it under Christmas books.) My favorite was probably Cahokia Jazz, which is more of a speculative novel than a mystery, but I really enjoyed it.

  • Blind Descent by Nevada Barr (again)
  • A Dark and Deadly Deception by Eleanor Taylor Bland
  • Shadow of the Solstice by Anne Hillerman
  • Cahokia Jazz by Francis Spufford (note: this could also go under scifi/fantasy)


Supernatural Mystery/Ghost Story.
 I'm not sure any of these books REALLY fit into this category, but they were all somewhat witchy/ghostly. I hope I can find more next year, because it's a favorite category of mine. I didn't love any of these, but The Third Hotel was pleasantly creepy.
  • Lolly Willowes or The Loving Huntsman by Sylvia Ashton Warner
  • Model Home by Rivers Solomon
  • The Third Hotel by Laura van den Berg 


Science Fiction/Fantasy.
 This category was actually empty at first, and then I looked at my list of General Fiction more closely and realized that it included a few different books that are classed as "speculative." So I moved them over here. I loved Piranesi!
  • Piranesi by Susanna Clarke
  • The Blizzard by Vladimir Sorokin, translated from the Russian by Jamey Gambrell
  • Termush: A Novel by Sven Holm, translated from the Danish by Sylvia Clayton
  • Klara and the Sun by Kazuo Ishiguro (read with Teen B for school)
  • Never Let Me Go by Kazuo Ishiguro
 
Poetry.
 Not much this year. Citizen was very good, though very upsetting. I'm still thinking about it.
  • Lunch Poems by Frank O'Hara
  • Citizen: An American Lyric by Claudia Rankine
  • Poems and Plays by V. R. Lang with a Memoir by Alison Lurie


General Fiction.
I read a lot of fiction this year, between my "Briefly Noted" choices and the NY Times list. I think my favorite was When We Cease to Understand the World by Benjamin Labatut.

  • Seven Empty Houses by Samanta Schweblin, translated from the Spanish by Megan McDowell
  • A Manual for Cleaning Women: Selected Stories by Lucia Berlin
  • 13 Ways of Looking at a Fat Girl by Mona Awad
  • Maps of Our Spectacular Bodies by Maddie Mortimer
  • Outline by Rachel Cusk
  • Less Than Angels by Barbara Pym
  • Angels and Insects by A. S. Byatt
  • The Years by Annie Ernaux, translated from the French by Alison L. Strayer
  • Neighbors and Other Stories by Diane Oliver
  • Emerald City and Other Stories by Jennifer Egan
  • A Visit from the Goon Squad by Jennifer Egan
  • Septology by Jon Fosse, translated from the Norwegian by Damion Searls
  • The Reservoir Tapes by Jon McGregor
  • Reservoir 13 by Jon McGregor
  • Exit West by Mohsin Hamid
  • The Line of Beauty by Alan Hollinghurst
  • Train Dreams by Denis Johnson
  • A Volga Tale by Guzel Yakhina, translated from the Russian by Polly Gannon
  • An American Marriage by Tayari Jones
  • When We Cease to Understand the World by Benjamin Labatut, translated from the Spanish by Adrian Nathan West
  • Lucy: A Novel by Ellen Feldman 
  • Butterflies in November by Auður Ava Olafsdottir, translated from the Icelandic by Brian FitzGibbon
  • The Vegetarian by Han Kang, translated from the Korean by Deborah Smith
  • Mrs. Palfrey at the Claremont by Elizabeth Taylor
  • A Mercy by Toni Morrison
  • Runaway by Alice Munro
  • Taiwan Travelogue by Yang Shuang-zi, translated from the Mandarin by Lin King
  • The Friend by Sigrid Nunez
  • The Sympathizer by Viet Thanh Nguyen
  • Detransition, Baby by Torrey Peters
  • Poor Deer by Claire Oshetsky
  • The Night Ocean by Paul La Farge
  • The Road from Belhaven by Margot Livesey
  • Erasure by Percival Everett
  • A Council of Dolls by Mona Susan Power


Christmas Books. 
Just read two of these, and Small Things Like These was definitely my favorite. I put a hold on another Christmas book, more of a romance, but on December 22nd I was still number 6 or so on the list, so I canceled the hold. Maybe next year I can read more of these.
  • Small Things Like These by Claire Keegan
  • Everyone This Christmas Has a Secret by Benjamin Stevenson


Graphic Novels/Memoirs/Whatever.
My favorite was Spent, even though I had some issues with it. But Alison Bechdel is just the best.
  • Spent by Alison Bechdel
  • The Fire Never Goes Out: A Memoir in Pictures by Noelle Stevenson
  • Transitions: A Mother's Journey by Elodie Durand, translated from the French by Evan McGorray


Memoir/Diaries/Autobiography.
I enjoyed several of these. My favorite was probably Patriot by Alexei Navalny, just because it was so inspiring.
  • The Absent Moon: A Memoir of a Short Childhood and a Long Depression by Luiz Schwarcz, translated from the Portuguese by Eric M. B. Becker.
  • A Life's Work: On Becoming a Mother by Rachel Cusk
  • Patriot: A Memoir by Alexei Navalny, translated from the Russian by Arch Tait and Stephen Dalziel
  • The Job: True Tales from the Life of a New York City Cop by Steve Osborne
  • Underground in Berlin: A Young Woman's Extraordinary Tale of Survival in the Heart of Nazi Germany by Marie Jalowicz Simon, translated from the German by Anthea Bell
  • Heavy: An American Memoir by Kiese Laymon
  • The Home Place: Memoirs of a Colored Man's Love Affair with Nature by J. Drew Lanham
  • The Return: Fathers, Sons, and the Land in Between by Hisham Matar
  • Secrets of the Blue Bungalow: More True Tales of Family Life in the Outer, Outer, Outer, Outer Excelsior by Kevin Fisher-Paulson
  • It.Goes.So.Fast.: The Year of No Do-Overs by Mary Louise Kelly
  • Woman of Interest: A Memoir by Tracy O'Neill
  • I Am Malala: The Girl Who Stood up for Education and Was Shot by the Taliban by Malala Yousafzai with Christina Lamb (read with Teen A for school)
  • Living with a Wild God: A Nonbeliever's Search for the Truth About Everything by Barbara Ehrenreich
  • Whiskey Tender: A Memoir by Deborah Jackson Taffa
 

Biography.
Only three of these this year. I guess my favorite was Looking for Betty MacDonald, but I didn't even like that one too much. I hope to read more biographies in 2026!

  • Looking for Betty MacDonald: The Egg, the Plague, Mrs. Piggle-Wiggle, and I by Paula Becker
  • A Passionate Mind in Relentless Pursuit: The Vision of Mary McLeod Bethune by Noliwe Rooks
  • Something in the Blood: The Untold Story of Bram Stoker, the Man Who Wrote Dracula by David J. Skal
 
Presidential Biography.
I'm including one book that isn't really a biography (Original Sin) but I think it belongs here, because it's a description of the end of a presidency. These were all good books. My favorite might have been Truman, because you can't beat David McCullough, but I also really liked Before the Trumpet.

  • Before the Trumpet: Young Franklin Roosevelt 1882-1905 by Geoffrey C. Ward
  • FDR by Jean Edward Smith
  • Original Sin: President Biden's Decline, Its Cover-up, and His Disastrous Choice to Run Again by Jake Tapper and Alex Thompson
  • No Ordinary Time: Franklin and Eleanor Roosevelt: The Home Front in World War II by Doris Kearns Goodwin
  • Truman by David McCullough
 
General Nonfiction.
I actually didn't like a lot of these, including one of my "favorites": Secondhand Time by Svetlana Alexievich. It's a horrible book, tells a horrible story, but it's stuck with me ever since I read it back in JanuaryI also really liked Phenomena and Far from the Tree.

  • Secondhand Time: The Last of the Soviets by Svetlana Alexievich, translated from the Russian by Bela Shayevich
  • The Ozempic Revolution: A Doctor's Proven Plan for Success to Help You Reverse Obesity, End Yo-Yo Dieting, and Protect Yourself from Disease by Alexandra Sowa
  • Still Life with Bones: Genocide, Forensics, and What Remains by Alexa Hagerty
  • Between the World and Me by Ta-Nehisi Coates
  • Word by Word: The Secret Life of Dictionaries by Kory Stamper
  • Action: A Book About Sex by Amy Rose Spiegel
  • Into the Wild by Jon Krakauer (read with Teen A for school)
  • The Notebook: A History of Thinking on Paper by Roland Allen
  • Hair Raising: Beauty, Culture, and African American Women by Noliwe M. Rooks
  • Women Rowing North: Navigating Life's Currents and Flourishing as We Age by Mary Pipher
  • I Heard There Was a Secret Chord: Music as Medicine by Daniel J. Levitin
  • The Great Displacement: Climate Change and the Next American Migration by Jake Bittle
  • The Emperor of All Maladies: A Biography of Cancer by Siddhartha Mukherjee
  • Phenomena: The Secret History of the U.S. Government's Investigations into Extrasensory Perception and Psychokinesis by Annie Jacobsen
  • Far from the Tree: Parents, Children, and the Search for Identity by Andrew Solomon
  • Our Moon: How Earth's Celestial Companion Transformed the Planet, Guided Evolution, and Made Us Who We Are by Rebecca Boyle 
  • ESP Wars East and West: An Account of the Military Use of Psychic Espionage as Narrated by the Key Russian and American Players by Edwin C. May, Victor Rubel, Joseph W. McMoneagle and Loyd Auerbach
  • Between Two Worlds: How the English Became Americans by Malcolm Gaskill
  • The Power of Full Engagement: Managing Energy, Not Time, Is the Key to High Performance and Personal Renewal by Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz.