Wednesday, January 29, 2025

Reading post: January

So, since the first month of the year is almost over, I might as well do a reading post. In 2025 my overall reading goal is to get better acquainted with recent literature, i.e., books published since the year 2000. I don't really want to do this -- I like older books better -- but I have decided to do it and do it I will. 

More specifically, in January I started my new challenge of reading one fiction and one nonfiction book from the "Briefly Noted" section of The New Yorker during the past 15 years or so.

The books I drew from my envelopes were The Absent Moon by Luiz Schwarcz, a Brazilian writer, and Seven Empty Houses by Samanta Schweblin, an Argentinian writer. Both books are described as "haunting" (probably why I clipped the reviews). I certainly did not expect to pick two books in translation by South American authors, but there you are. It also seems odd to me that both authors' names begin with "Schw." The Boulder main library had both books on the shelf, so I picked them up (thinking, as I did so, that I would never have chosen either book if I weren't doing this challenge) and started reading.

  • The Absent Moon: A Memoir of a Short Childhood and a Long Depression by Luiz Schwarcz (2023), translated from the Portuguese by Eric M. B. Becker. The story of the Brazilian Jewish author's difficult relationship with his parents, especially his father (a Holocaust survivor from Hungary), and his own struggles with mental illness. Schwarcz, a famous editor and publisher in Brazil, has a light hand with tragedy -- too light, really. I read somewhere that mental illness is still very stigmatized in Brazil, and so Schwarcz perhaps didn't feel that he could write an American-style tell-all. Or maybe didn't want to. I was disappointed by the book (didn't find it "haunting"), but I'm still glad I read it.

  • Seven Empty Houses by Samanta Schweblin (2015), translated from the Spanish by Megan McDowell. This collection has such an evocative, "haunting" name, but I thought the seven stories fell a little short. The author seemed to want so badly to be weird, at the expense of being honest. I agree with the writer of the brief review, though: the one long story, "Breath from the Depths," was impressive. It's about an old woman gradually becoming more and more demented, and of course not realizing that she is. Scary, spooky story.

 

Best books of the 21st century so far

As another part of my goal of reading recent literature, I continued working on the NY Times list of the best books of the 21st century so far. I decided to be very methodical about this. I put the remaining list (that is, the books I hadn't read yet) in alphabetical order by author and divided it into 12 sections, one for each month. So, for January I looked only at books by authors whose last names began with A or B. I'm not interested in reading every book on the list, so I just picked a few that sounded interesting.



  • A Manual for Cleaning Women by Lucia Berlin (2015). Berlin, who died on her 68th birthday in 2004, wrote mostly autobiographical stories -- so they're like little memoirs, but not quite. She had an interesting life, and the stories she wrote about that life are interesting too. One quibble: I don't like the title. I expected that many of the 43 stories would be about cleaning women (which sounded boring), but I think the title story was the only one. Toward the end of her life Berlin lived in Boulder for a few years, teaching at CU, and the stories she wrote then mention magpies. Of course.

  • Secondhand Time: The Last of the Soviets by Svetlana Alexievich, translated from the Russian by Bela Shayevich (2016). Oh god, what a terrible book. I don't mean it's bad. It's magnificent (Alexievich is a Nobel Prize winner). It's based on interviews she did with people in Russia and the former Soviet republics, circa 1991-2012, about the end of communism and the beginning of capitalism in Russia. And the stories are almost unremittingly terrible. Just a nightmare of a book. I read it, so you don't have to. Unless you want proof that America under Trump is not actually the worst thing imaginable (yet).

  • Americanah by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie (2013). I tried to read this, but gave up after 100 pages or so. It's about Nigerians immigrating to America and England, and back to Nigeria, and the problems they face everywhere. You know, with what's going on in our world, with Trump and all, I just couldn't face a book about immigrants. Also, it's very long, and too slow. Maybe in some other lifetime I'll read this.

So I've now read 35 of the books on the list of the top 100.

 

Other reading

My other reading this month consisted mainly of the book for the book group (The Frozen River by Ariel Lawhon, definitely underwhelming), and my first book about FDR: Before the Trumpet: Young Franklin Roosevelt by Geoffrey C. Ward. Steve, whose blog helps me make all my presidential bio decisions, said this was a nice introduction to FDR. I found it very interesting, so yes, it was a good place to start. Maybe in March I'll move on to FDR by Jean Edward Smith, which is going to be my second FDR book. The Boulder library doesn't have it, so I'll have to request it.

But February is a short, cold month, so I am just going to read more books from "Briefly Noted" and the list of 100. And Barbara Pym, of course.

Sunday, January 26, 2025

Snow, snow

So, there's a lot of snow out there. Last week when I wrote we had gotten about 8 inches, and then we got about 4 more the next day. Then we shoveled, but then we had some very high winds which blew the snow around so we had to shovel all over again. And then yesterday we got another dumping, I think about 7 inches if I'm reading the National Weather Service report correctly. 

The snow in the side yard looks really deep, in part because we haven't shoveled there since this round of storms began (so that's 19 inches total?), but also I think mainly because the wind blew more snow over there.

We'll probably just leave it. There's no reason to shovel it, no need to go over in that corner or open the back gate. And it's supposed to warm up this week, into the 40s every day, so some of it will melt.

Gad, what a mess that's going to be! Best to leave it alone.

Leaving it alone is also what I'm going to do with all the Trump news. I decided I don't want to write about that here. It's just too depressing. If I think of anything to do about it, I'll write about that, about things I actually do, not just things I think of. But otherwise I'm going to leave all that awfulness out of the blog. For the most part.

I went to my doctor last Monday, to find out about my bug bites, and from her I learned that they are not bites at all! All that work to get rid of bed bugs, the spraying, the dismantling of the bed and the room. All pointless (although the room is cleaner now, so that's good). We do not have bed bugs and also I do not have scabies, which was my next guess. No, according to her I have "prurigo nodularis," a chronic skin disorder often related to eczema (which I am not aware of having). She doesn't know what caused it or why it is spreading. 

My treatment plan consists of: switching soap and laundry detergent to gentler versions, using special lotions on my itchy skin, and taking a high-powered antihistamine called hydroxyzine. We had been using Irish Spring soap in the shower which for some unknown reason Rocket Boy bought -- he doesn't even remember buying it -- so I've switched us back to Caress. I was already using sensitive laundry detergent, but I've now switched to even-more-sensitive laundry detergent. I put lotion on my itchy skin every night, and I've been taking the hydroxyzine.

But I've decided to stop taking it. It makes me horribly groggy, and also just kind of lethargic. I haven't had the energy to exercise at all this week, and this morning when I tried to shovel snow, I could barely lift the shovel. Also, although it is also prescribed for anxiety and tension, it seems to have almost the opposite effect on me. I have gotten terribly crabby and I keep yelling at Rocket Boy for no reason at all. Like he'll ask me how I'm feeling and I'll bite his head off. Now, I have to admit that the Trump news could be another reason I'm feeling that way. It's hard to figure out what's Trump and what's the drug. But I *think* the drug is making things worse.

Also, it doesn't seem to be helping. After four nights of taking it, I'm just as itchy as ever. So I'm going to stop taking it and keep up the other parts of the plan, and in a week I'm supposed to report back to her and then she'll put me on an antibiotic. I see online that tetracycline would be the choice, probably. I hate taking antibiotics, but I also hate itching.

This would probably be the right place for the Mounjaro report. It's not the best news this week, but there are good reasons for it.

  • Weight the morning I took my first shot: 254.6
  • Weight last Sunday: 226.2
  • Weight this morning (after 31+ weeks on Mounjaro): 226.8


Yes, that's right, I gained half a pound. But I'm not upset about it. I hardly exercised at all! Just could not get myself to do anything. Plus, the stupid hydroxycine seems to make me hungrier. Yesterday I could not stop eating sweets. I even finished off a pint of Ben & Jerry's (granted, it was about 2/3 empty already). It is not a good drug for me.

Also, I am pleased that I'm still below 227. We are making progress here, and if I don't take the drug and get some exercise this week, I bet I'll lose.

What else is there to write about? Not much happened this week. Mostly I just lay around feeling groggy and crabby. I did manage, finally, to get the last of my ornaments off the Christmas tree. We're scheduled to take it down next weekend -- though Rocket Boy doesn't want to, he wants to leave it up indefinitely because of Trump -- I guess because he finds it cheering -- but we ARE going to take it down, I don't approve of having Christmas trees still up in February. Anyway, in preparation for that, I got all my ornaments off it and packed them away. There are still a few of Rocket Boy's ornaments up, plus the lights, but that's all.

I think I only made dinner once -- those wonderful sweet potatoes with black beans and cheese. Rocket Boy fixed salmon one night, but Sprouts only had a little salmon, so he got some barramundi to go with it. I'd never had barramundi before. It's not bad, and apparently it's a very sustainable choice. Tuesday night we just got pizza from Abo's, even though pizza gives me terrible heartburn. It was the one night each month that they donate a percentage of their profits to the twins' old elementary school, so I figured that was a good thing. Oh, and Friday night Rocket Boy made a creole cod dish, which the twins refused to eat, but I thought it was pretty good.

This coming week I'll try to cook more.

As I said above, I basically got no exercise, and I also didn't manage to stick to my new schedule -- mainly because I was so tired in the mornings that it was all I could do to feed the cats, start a load of laundry, do the dishes, and eat breakfast. Forget things like paperwork and genealogy and planning the trip and finding a dentist. I did manage to do a little writing each afternoon (I would be slightly more awake by then), but I couldn't work on my novel, not enough brain power. 

Instead, I worked on my memoirs. When I can't focus on anything else, I can always write those. I haven't gotten very far -- just to the beginning of junior high -- and this week I mostly cleaned up sections I'd written before. But I took a closer look at something that has been puzzling me. In my mother's Life Story, when she's writing about her breakdown, she says the Saturday before she was hospitalized, she and my father took me to buy a skirt and blouse for a choir performance I had the next day, i.e., Sunday. I'm pretty sure that would have been the All-City Chorus. But then who took me to that, if my father and my aunt were off taking my mother to a mental hospital? I wondered if my mother had her dates wrong.

And then I thought, hey, we're members of Ancestry.com now, which gives us access to Newspapers.com. I'll bet the All-City Chorus was mentioned in our local newspaper. So I did a search, and I found it. But it was on Friday, February 20th, 1970, not a Sunday, and my mother's breakdown was Sunday, March 15th (my older sister confirms this). I don't know what to make of this. Was I in some other choral performance that year, at age 9? I can't think what it could have been, and anyway, I'm quite sure the All-City Chorus was what I needed special clothes for.

I have no one to ask about this. My old friend Ellen might have a memory, since we were in the All-City Chorus together, but she doesn't speak to me anymore. And of course my mother is gone.

I guess it doesn't matter.

Sunday, January 19, 2025

Deep freeze

We often get some really cold, snowy weather right after Christmas, but we didn't this year. It was dry and not really all that cold. So, it's not surprising that we're in the midst of some very cold, snowy weather right now. It had to come sometime. 

We got about 8 inches or so Friday night, plus a little more during the day on Saturday. The official tally for Boulder is 8.3 inches -- I think it might have been a little more than that, but anyway, around there. A lot of very dry, light snow, because it was so cold that night, maybe below zero. Still, 8-10 inches of snow is hard to move around, even when it's dry and light.

It's very cold, going to continue to be very cold until Tuesday, when it will warm up to 39. (Monday is Martin Luther King Day, so the kids will be off school.) We are supposed to get a couple more inches of snow tonight, which is sort of annoying because we've just gotten the walks and the driveways cleared and the cars cleaned off. I have a doctor appointment tomorrow morning at 10:45, which means we'll have to be out cleaning off at least one car again before 10. Tonight's low will be around -3 and tomorrow's high will be around 8.

Well, it's January.

I am going to the doctor because of my bug bites. My book group was scheduled to meet this past Thursday, and on Tuesday I emailed them and told them about my bites (which I still thought were bed bug bites), and asked if they'd feel comfortable being around me. One of them was honest and said no, so we did a zoom call instead. She also urged me to see a doctor. A doctor? What for? That seemed silly to me. But then my sister popped up with the idea that my bites might not be from bed bugs after all. She suggested scabies. I have now read a lot about scabies, and while I don't seem to meet the criteria exactly, it's starting to sound more likely than bed bugs. 

For one thing, we cannot find any bed bugs! We took the closet in our bedroom apart this week, pulled everything out and washed everything and packed it back up in plastic. Every time we uncovered another section of closet I thought -- aha! bed bugs! -- except there weren't any. No bugs, dead or alive, no spots, no bed bug dirt, no eggs, nothing. Just a little dust. There weren't even any spiders (dead or alive). I'm being very careful about examining the vacuum cleaner bag and the dryer lint catcher, and there's just nothing. No bugs.

Plus, despite our careful spraying with CrossFire, I'm still getting "bites" -- if they even are bites. If I have scabies, these are actually where mites have tunneled into my skin. The mites have babies and then the babies (larvae) come out onto the skin and make a new tunnel. So lovely.

The thing is, my "bites" are in the wrong places for scabies. According to the Mayo Clinic, scabies is usually found: between the fingers and toes; in the armpits; around the waist; along the insides of the wrists; on the inner elbows; on the soles of the feet; on the chest; around the nipples; around the belly button; around the genitals; in the groin area; on the buttocks.

I have bites on my legs and arms, almost exclusively. The bites are moving up both my legs and arms. In the beginning all the bites were on my calves, but now they are all over my thighs too. And the ones on my arms started out near my wrists and now are headed toward my armpits. This makes sense if larvae are emerging and looking for places to make their own burrows.

So what do I have? Hopefully we'll find out tomorrow.

Since I'm talking about medical things, I might as well give the Mounjaro report here.

  • Weight the morning I took my first shot: 254.6
  • Weight last Sunday: 229
  • Weight this morning (after 30+ weeks on Mounjaro): 226.2


Look at that -- I lost weight! And it's real, I think, because I was low every day this week, sometimes lower than this. So, it will be interesting to see if this continues.

I think the reason I lost weight was exercise. I managed to exercise every day last week. Some days it was just a 10-minute stretch video, other days it was a 30-minute walk, and I think one day I managed to do both. So, not a lot, but consistent, moving every day. I'm going to try to do the same thing this week, despite the cold and snow. Both yesterday and today I went out and shoveled for 25+ minutes. Today I actually pushed myself too far -- my blood sugar got too low. I need to have something to eat before I go outside in the cold.

***

I tried out my new (revised) schedule this week, and it went pretty well. On Monday (from 10 to 11 am) I did a stretch video and worked on our spring break trip. On Tuesday I spent an hour on paperwork. On Wednesday I did a stretch video and totally avoided calling dentists, sigh. On Thursday I spent an hour on genealogy. And on Friday I did a stretch video and paid bills. Also, I managed to do some writing every day (from 2 to 3 pm) except Friday, so that was pretty good.

So I think I'm set with this schedule for now. It's helping me get through January. Although I wish I could get past my anxiety and find a dentist. The longer we go without one, the worse I feel about the whole thing. What kind of mom doesn't take her kids to the dentist?

***

We went to a presentation at the high school on Wednesday. That is, Rocket Boy and I went, and Teen B joined us partway through. It was about the road to college, all the things you need to do to prepare for that. It's funny -- I always just assumed that my children would go to college. But now I have one who is actively planning not to go and another who might go, but honestly, it's hard for me to picture him doing so. I don't think he's going to be ready to go away in a year and a half. Community college for a year or two and then transferring might be a better choice for him.

We have almost $158,000 in the twins' college funds right now. That's $79,000 each. For two kids who might not go to college at all. We put, I think, $26,000 into each kid's fund when they were about three months old -- it was part of my inheritance from my mother. We haven't put any additional funds in since then, but over 16 years the money has grown.

Of course, Teen A may eventually use some of that at a trade school or such. Or he may end up going to college after all, later on. And if Teen B goes to community college (and lives at home) and later transfers to a four-year college, he might be able to pay for the whole thing (or most of it) using his $79,000. Plus, he's going to have probably more than $10,000 in social security money that he could draw on. So it's all good. Whatever he does, he probably won't end up with a lot of student loan debt, which would be wonderful after Rocket Boy's horrible experiences with it. 

It just seems so strange.

***

I don't think I have much else to write about this week. Tomorrow is the day we're all dreading, Trump's inauguration. I may or may not watch some of it. I like seeing the other old presidents, but of course it's very unpleasant to see Trump.

I have that doctor appointment in the morning, and the kids probably have some homework to do before they go back to school on Tuesday. And we may make a Starbucks run. We didn't go today because of the weather (of course, it will be worse tomorrow), and also because Teen B was being bad and I didn't want to reward him. But he made amends, so we'll probably go tomorrow. 

Maybe I'll make a batch of cookies. Something sweet to counteract the bitter taste of Trump. Tonight I made a big pot of chickpea-tomato soup. Something warm and comforting to counteract the frigid reality of January.


Sunday, January 12, 2025

January doings

So January is rolling along, as it does. It's cold. It gets dark early. There's snow on the ground -- not a lot, but some. I've been going for walks, even though the sidewalks are icy. I bought myself a pair of new sneaker hiking boots (whatever they're called, high top sneakers that are also sort of hiking boots) this fall, so sometimes I just wear those, and other days I put my spikes on (see photo), whatever they're called. Yaktrax. OK, I checked and they're called ice cleats or snow grips. They work really well on ice -- the problem is that we have long stretches of sidewalk or creek path that have no ice or snow on them. So you're walking along on bare pavement, with these chains hitting the ground and it's uncomfortable. But then you come to an icy section and whoa, those spikes are the only things keeping you upright! Often the iciest places are the roads, at intersections where you have to cross. If I didn't have my spikes I might not be able to make it across. But then on the other side you hit bare pavement again and you're clumping along on your spikes, pointlessly. It's probably not good for the pavement either.

This back and forth between snow/ice and no snow/no ice is also a classic winter experience, especially in Boulder.

It's weird, sometimes, to be out in the cold and the ice and snow and then think about what it's like in Los Angeles right now. Today I see the high is supposed to be 65 (ours is 37), but with smoke. Those fires! Of course, you can have fires even in the cold, even in Colorado. I will never forget our Marshall Fire of three years ago. I don't remember what the temperature was the day of the fire, but the next day it dropped precipitously and we got 10 inches of snow. I guess you don't have fires when it's snowing, but you can have fires the day before a snow. Anyway.

Let's see, what else did we do this week? (other than watching fire news, I mean.) The kids went back to school on Tuesday, much to their displeasure. Teen B has a new class this term: Health, which is a requirement for graduation. Most of the people in the class are seniors. The teacher told them that they would have no homework, the assignments will all be in-class, and on Fridays there will be no work whatsoever. They still have to come to class, but she'll bring hot chocolate and tea and apple cider and board games, and they can just chill out. Sounds like a senior class to me, but poor Teen B is a junior, so the class is kind of wasted on him. Still, it sounds like it'll give us plenty to joke about this semester.

It was extremely difficult to wake up this week, in part because we'd gotten wildly off schedule over Christmas, and in part because it's January, and in part because I am not sleeping well these days. It's due to the bed bugs and all my bites. I am just covered with bites. I tried to take a picture of the bites on my legs, but I don't think they show up very well. Every little dot in that photo, except for maybe four or five moles, is a bed bug bite. If you run your hand along my leg, you feel the bites -- ALL these little bumps.

Here's another picture, of part of one thigh, which maybe shows some more bites. There are dozens of them. Some are old, some are new, but they all itch like crazy (and of course I have bites behind my knees, and on my thighs, and on my arms, too). And when I go to bed at night the itching intensifies. It's when I lie on my side, one leg on top of the other, the pressure or something. I start out by rubbing my legs against each other, to try to calm the itch. That makes it worse. I try to resist, then I reach down and start scratching. I scratch for a while, then I try to stop scratching and just relax. Ha. After a while I start rubbing my legs against each other again. Then I scratch. Then I stop. On and on. The least itchy position is my back, because then my legs are not touching each other. But I can't sleep on my back. So eventually I turn on my side again. And then the itching heats up.

At some point each night I succumb to pure exhaustion and fall asleep. That's probably when the bed bugs arrive and start biting me again. But before that happens, I've wasted an hour or two of what could have been sleep. I feel like I am permanently exhausted these days.

Last week I ordered a bottle of Crossfire, the pesticide that's supposed to be most effective at getting rid of bedbugs, and it arrived Friday (a day late due to the snow we got on Tuesday). Yesterday we used it for the first time. Supposedly an application lasts for 30 days and then you apply it again, so I plan to use it again in four weeks, which will be February 8th.

There's a guy on YouTube, Green Akers Pest Control, something like that, who posts videos about bed bugs and how to control them. I watched several of his videos and decided I could do this. We bought a new plastic spray bottle -- despite the fact that we already own about 20 of them -- because I wanted to be sure it was clean and that we would use it only for this. Crossfire is supposed to be a very safe pesticide (for mammals), but still, it's a pesticide. This bottle makes enough for a gallon of stuff to spray, but we decided to mix up only one quart. 

In all the bed bug videos I've seen, the people do not have several bookcases and piles of clothing and blankets and Barbie dolls and lymphedema treatments all over their bedrooms. So we may have been screwed from the start. But we tried our best. We stripped the bed, removed the mattress and box spring, vacuumed, and sprayed everything to a fare-thee-well. I sprayed every inch of the bed frame, the box spring, the mattress. I sprayed under the dressers, between the bookcases. I sprayed the molding. I sprayed behind the mirror and pictures on the walls. I went out into the hallway and sprayed the molding. I went into the living room and took the couch and chair apart and sprayed the couch and chair cushions. The kids haven't had any bites, but I went in their room and sprayed under their mattresses and around the feet of their beds. I even sprayed the inside of my car. 

Then we changed the bag on the vacuum cleaner (outside) and I studied the used bag. No sign of any bugs. I washed our sheets again and studied the lint trap on the dryer. No sign of any bugs.

We went out to dinner at the Taj, and when we came back we put the bed back together again. No sign of any bugs. They say you may start seeing dead bugs here and there. I haven't seen any yet. Just now I crawled around on the carpet in our room, searching for dead bugs. Nothing.

I don't know how long it will be before I notice a difference. That is, these bites stay itchy for so long that I'd have to not get any new bites for probably a week before I might start to feel better. OK. I can wait a week. I'll let you know how I feel next Sunday.

Having Rocket Boy home makes it so much easier to do things like this. Of course, I'm assuming it was Rocket Boy who brought the bed bugs into our house in the first place, since my bites started in early November. He probably got them in a hotel. It occurred to me that they could have been in his apartment, since he apparently doesn't react to the bites, but then I remembered that we were there for a week last March and I didn't get any bites. No, he probably picked them up in a hotel, probably in Kansas, on his last trip back home. Oh well.

I am going to be paranoid about hotels from now on. We are starting to plan our Spring Break trip, and I made two hotel reservations this week. And all I could think, when making the reservations, was "Bed Bugs!" I will have to read up on all the things they say to do to prevent bed bugs from climbing into your luggage. Keep your suitcases on a luggage rack or the dresser, NOT the floor -- which is where I always put my luggage. Bring plastic bags to keep your clothes in and also a big garbage sack to put the luggage rack in. Check the bed and the room for signs of infestation. Keep your suitcases zipped up when not in use.

I'm going to turn into one of those crazy people who's always looking for bugs. It may have already happened.

***

This was the first week of trying to follow my New Year's resolutions and it went pretty well. To review, my main resolution was to build a partial schedule into my week. I resolved to do something specific from 10-11 am each weekday, and to write from 2-3 pm each day. My planned activities for the morning hour were as follows:

  • Monday: paperwork
  • Tuesday: lift weights & plan our next trip
  • Wednesday: call dentists (or whoever needs calling)
  • Thursday: genealogy
  • Friday: lift weights & pay bills

And I actually followed this! Each day I worked along on morning FlyLady things until 10 am, and then I stopped and started doing the activity of the day! It was truly amazing. And I got a lot done. I am going to make one change for this week, however. I decided that I really needed to be doing stretch videos/lifting weights THREE times a week, not two. It only takes about 15 minutes to do one of those videos, and then I have 45 minutes for the other activity. So the new schedule is as follows:

  • Monday: lift weights and plan our trip
  • Tuesday: paperwork
  • Wednesday: lift weights and call dentists (or whoever)
  • Thursday: genealogy
  • Friday: lift weights & pay bills

Probably the least successful day was Wednesday, because calling dentists is so incredibly anxiety-producing for me. I would rather do almost anything than call a dentist's office. Last spring, when I finally got up my nerve to call some dentists, both offices I called said they were NOT accepting new patients and were really rude to me. I suspect they were getting a lot of calls from other patients who used to go to our dentist (who flaked out and closed his practice), but still. They could have been nicer.

So I didn't actually call any dentists this past Wednesday -- I just researched them. I found a few that I want to call -- but none of them were listed on the website of our new insurance, MetLife. I fear that we (I) may have really screwed up on the insurance thing. We knew Delta Dental was bad, but we didn't know what would be a good replacement. I think I made a bad choice.

We may just have to go to a stupid dentist, like Perfect Teeth, this year, and then switch insurances and dentists again next year.

The writing hour did not go as well. I discovered that 2 pm is kind of a sleepy time for me, especially since I'm not getting enough sleep these days (see above). So it was hard to concentrate. It was also hard because I haven't really worked out what this novel is about yet. I have a vague idea, or actually several vague ideas, but they haven't come together properly. So I get discouraged quickly. I write a few lines and then I think -- what is this doing here? Why haven't I gotten to the mystery proper, why am I writing about changing babies' diapers? And then I have to remind myself that writing is how you figure out what to write. Probably the section about the babies will eventually be deleted, but I have to write it in order to get to the more important stuff.

As the week went on, and the word count added up, I felt a little more cheerful. I have about 8,000 words of this novel written so far. A typical middle grade novel might be 40,000 words. At this rate, writing maybe 250 words a day, five days a week, I could have 40,000 words by June. Of course, you need more than 40,000 words -- they have to be the right words. But still. I felt encouraged.

The other problem with the writing hour was Rocket Boy. At 2 pm he's also in the desk room, where I write, because that's where he does his job, teleworking. And he watches videos related to his job, and has loud phone conversations while I'm trying to write. One day, maybe Tuesday or Wednesday, I got very upset about these disturbances and decided that I couldn't work in that room with him. I would have to take my laptop and go work on the dining room table or something. The problem with that idea is that my laptop doesn't travel very well. The battery doesn't last more than a minute or two -- and we've replaced the battery, but that didn't fix the problem. So I would have to drag the power cord and all that along with me wherever I went. Also, in the desk room I have my laptop hooked up to a larger monitor and a keyboard. I don't like typing on a laptop keyboard, staring at a little screen. But I can't drag my monitor and my keyboard out to the dining room every day, that would be such a pain. Also, I really like to be able to look out of the two windows in the desk room.

After thinking many dark thoughts about how I wanted Rocket Boy to go back to Missouri, or DIE, so that I could have the room to myself, and about how no one in the family values my writing, and about how I don't want to get up at 6 am and write before the rest of the family gets up, since I'm not getting enough sleep ANYWAY, due to certain BED BUGS, that a certain HUSBAND brought with him from a hotel in KANSAS...

...it finally occurred to me that I *like* to write in the desk room, and so I'm going to go on writing there, in the afternoon. I will invest in a pair of noise-cancelling headphones, or maybe earpods, something like that, and otherwise I will just do my best to ignore Rocket Boy's activities. Now that he knows I'll be in there from 2 to 3, he can try to watch his videos at other times, but when he needs to be on a conference call I can just put on my headphones and hope for the best.

And once I decided that, miraculously the problems seemed to go away. Rocket Boy stopped irritating me, although he went right on working. Even without headphones, I found it easier to concentrate.

I am looking forward to making some real progress on that novel this winter.

***

Another task that I wanted to work on this week was starting to take down the Christmas tree. I thought I could pack up one small box of ornaments each week, leading up to the first weekend in February, when we take the whole tree down. But I didn't get anything packed up. I still could. I've got tonight. We're having leftovers for dinner, so that's easy. I'll see.

The only way that I worked on the tree was to eat candy canes off it. I was very disappointed with the candy canes this year. We buy Brach's, not horrible Spanglers, but even the Brach's weren't very good. I don't think it's my imagination -- I think they've gotten thinner and less good. The old Bob's candy canes were vastly superior. So anyway, the kids have hardly eaten any of them, which means it's been up to me. I just know I'm going to break a tooth, or a filling, on the darn things, and here we are without a dentist. But I go on eating them. In fact, I'm eating one now. Mmm.

I should give the Mounjaro report before I forget.

  • Weight the morning I took my first shot: 254.6
  • Weight last Sunday: 229
  • Weight this morning (after 29+ weeks on Mounjaro): 229


Sigh. Five weeks in a row with tiny weight losses, and then this week I stayed the same. And it's so frustrating, because most days of the week I weighed less. But, if you'll recall, last week it wasn't clear that I really weighed 229, it might have been 230. This week it was clearly 229, both times I got on the scale. So, there you are. At least I didn't gain. (Maybe when I finish the last of the candy canes, my weight will start going down again.)

I took three good walks this week and did two stretch videos. So I will try to do the same again this week, or maybe more. And that's about all I can do. Cooking is going pretty well. Rocket Boy usually handles the Monday and Tuesday night dinners, and I do Wednesday through Friday. This week I made roasted cauliflower with couscous on Wednesday, tacos on Thursday, and a pasta dish on Friday. We're going to have the leftover pasta tonight. This coming week there's a meeting at the school on Wednesday (from 6 to 7:30), so we may just get a quick meal out afterwards. And Thursday my book group meets, so I'm not sure what I'll do that night, something simple and quick. I need to sit down and plan the meals tonight (perhaps while taking ornaments off the tree).

But for now, it's almost 5 pm and I haven't walked yet, so I think I'm going to go take a short walk. The Weather Service says it's 34 degrees (it's probably colder on our front porch) and it's going to get down to 12 degrees tonight. Hello January. Gotta love it.

Sunday, January 5, 2025

Welcome to 2025

So here we are in the new year. When the calendar turned over to 2025, I was so surprised to have my phone say "January 1." Oh yuck, I thought, as if it were unexpected. January! It sounds so cold and bleak after the warmth and fun of December. And it is cold and bleak today: a light snowfall overnight and a high of 31 or so (which is probably what it is right now, at 3 pm). We had almost no snow in December, something like 6/10ths of an inch, so we need to catch up. Sigh.

But January is what it is, and so here we are. 

Our big news is that, as I feared, we do seem to have bedbugs (the photo shows what we think is bedbug poop, on our box spring). Where they came from, who knows. My best guess is a hotel Rocket Boy stayed in on his way home from Missouri. But we don't really know.

I am the only family member being bitten (or at least reacting to being bitten), but I have so so many bites. Sometimes I can't fall asleep because I keep thinking about the bedbugs crawling into our bed, crawling up my legs, biting biting biting. It's quite horrifying. We have yet to see a live bug, but we know they are there.

Last night I dreamed that I stayed up late and around 3 or 4 am, shone a flashlight on the legs of our bed. I could see bedbugs making their way up the legs. I smashed as many as I could. Then I woke up. Then I fell asleep again and had a version of the same dream. Then I woke up. Then I fell asleep again and had that dream a third time. I am not sure if this really happened. Did I really have the same dream three times? I don't know. But it wasn't a good night.

I feel as though January often starts off with something awful happening. Sometimes people get very sick. Two or three years ago the rental house had that leaking pipe that led to thousands of dollars in repairs and damage control. So for us this year apparently it's bedbugs. (Unless something else even worse is going to happen soon.)

Resolutions

As usual I started off the new year by reviewing my achievements of the previous year and making plans for the year to come.

My achievements in 2024 included the following:

  • read 122 books, saw 19 movies, went to 9 concerts and 2 plays (mostly school-related) and 1 funeral, wrote this blog regularly, and did some other writing as well. 
  • finally got our trees trimmed and the volunteer Siberian Elm in the front yard removed; replaced the hot water heater and the bathroom door; in the rental house Rocket Boy replaced a light fixture and a broken outlet and put in a new thermostat.
  • We took two family trips and I went on another with my sister. 
  • did stretch videos all winter, walked regularly all summer and fall, and started taking Mounjaro which helped me lose 25 pounds and get my blood sugar down. Also finally got my braces off.
  • helped Teen A get his driver's license, continued to help Teen B make progress in that direction, and helped both kids survive in school.
  • and encouraged Rocket Boy to finally move back to Colorado!

I don't have a lot of big plans for the coming year. Our income is in good shape for now. With Rocket Boy taking Social Security AND earning a salary with his new job, there's no need for me to bring in money. Mounjaro has such a strong effect on my stamina, especially on Tuesdays and Wednesdays, that I'm not sure I'm up to working a regular job now anyway. Maybe I could handle part-time, or volunteer work. I'll see.

But as always I do have resolutions (or plans, goals, whatever word you prefer). I think my overarching goal is to not spend so much time on housework. Or, rather, on avoiding housework, which takes a lot of time. I'm so focused on following FlyLady that I put housework above everything else, when it really should fade into the background. I can spend literally HOURS not cleaning the litter boxes -- but not doing anything else either, because I'm trying to get myself to clean the litter boxes.

So my idea is to schedule some of my hours, at least on school days. Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, and Friday, I get up at 7 and the twins get up at 7:30-ish, and they leave the house around 8:10 (Wednesday it all happens an hour later). Then I feed the cats, make my breakfast, put away clean dishes from the night before, start a load of laundry, eat my breakfast, do the breakfast dishes, and either swish & swipe the bathroom OR clean the litter boxes. And put the laundry in the dryer. All that shouldn't take more than an hour or so, but I can stretch it out so that it takes three hours (and perhaps isn't even done). So my first plan is that at 10 am I will stop whatever I'm doing and do something else for an hour. I've made a tentative schedule, as follows:

  • Monday: paperwork (getting ready to do our taxes, and later working on the files & piles)
  • Tuesday: lift weights & plan our next trip
  • Wednesday: call dentists (or whoever needs calling)
  • Thursday: genealogy
  • Friday: lift weights & pay bills

I may change this around -- it's just tentative, until I see how this works.

OK, so then 11-2 is free (unscheduled) time, time to do housework, plan meals, go to the grocery store or do other errands, schedule appointments, read -- whatever.

Then comes another scheduled hour: from 2-3 pm I will write. I need some writing time and with Rocket Boy teleworking in the desk room, I know I'm not going to get it unless I demand it -- from myself -- schedule it and keep to the schedule.

Then at 3 pm I'll stop writing and go for a walk. Maybe. But it would be a good time for it, and it would help me break away from the computer. And the rest of the day & evening is open: put away the laundry, start making dinner, read, do other tasks. The twins get home around 4:20 on Monday, Tuesday, and Friday, and around 3:50 on Wednesday and Thursday, so they often need things from me.

We'll see how it goes.

In addition to my schedule plans, of course I have all my usual resolutions about reading and exercise and whatnot. I won't write them all down here -- they're quite similar to previous years. Read 52 books, see 26 movies, walk every day, etc., etc. It all seems totally doable and reasonable. Actually doing it is something else. But we'll see. 

***

This was a really lazy week. We had thought we would do a lot of fun things over the break, but we did almost nothing. That trip to the Art Museum last weekend was it. Teen A mainly hung out with his friends and Teen B didn't want to do anything with us. No movies, no trips. I feel bad about it, but I also know that when you're 16 going on 17 you want to do your own thing, not your parents' thing. Even if you have no friends, you don't want your parents to be your friends. I respect that.
 
New Year's Eve was pretty quiet. Teen A wanted to do something with friends but I made him take the bus -- I didn't want him driving on drunk driving night. Teen B stayed home with us and we made a puzzle and watched some TV. Just after midnight I texted Teen A to ask if he wanted me to pick him up and he texted back that he was waiting for the bus. But a little while later he texted that no bus was coming and could he stay overnight (his friend's parents were OK with it). So I said fine, we'll see you in the morning. We all slept late and he woke us up when he came in the front door at 11 am. A funny start to the new year.
 

One exciting thing that happened was we lost Sillers. It was the day we worked on the bedding -- Thursday? Or Friday? I've forgotten. Anyway, we stripped the bed, put the mattress in the hall, draped the gigantic mattress pad over the clothesline, and vacuumed the bedroom to a fare-thee-well. We don't have any anti-bedbug chemicals yet (supposed to arrive this Friday), but we did what we could.

While we were going in and out of the back door, Sillers somehow slipped out. She doesn't usually do that -- it's a Baby Kitty thing -- but that day she did. Maybe an hour later I heard a meow that sounded like it was outside and I realized she was nowhere in the house. By then it was dark, but I went out and used my phone flashlight to search. Teen B helped me. No sign of her, no rustling sounds. I went to the front yard and continued to search. It was cold, probably in the low 20s. Nothing. Then all of a sudden, a very loud meow came from under Rocket Boy's car! "Sillers!" I cried, but I didn't want to scare her. "What a good girl," I said, in a softer, calmer voice. Little by little she came out from under the car and let me pick her up. Once back inside, she ran all around the house, her tail very big and puffy. Funny cat.

Still, other than that it was a boring week. We did go to Starbucks a lot, because Teen B enjoys that. I realized today, on our third trip this week, that I really didn't want Starbucks. I was tired of coffee with whipped cream on top (I'm not normally a coffee drinker, but coffee is a big help with constipation issues). I wanted to go to the bagel shop next door and get a yummy bagel sandwich. But Teen B wanted to go to Starbucks, so we went to Starbucks yet again. And I've already told him we can go tomorrow too -- the last day of vacation.

Time for the Mounjaro report, I guess.

  • Weight the morning I took my first shot: 254.6
  • Weight last Sunday: 229.2
  • Weight this morning (after 28+ weeks on Mounjaro): 229


So, fifth week in a row with a tiny weight loss. I must confess that this may not be accurate. When I first got on the scale this morning it said 230. Oh, come on, I said, and got off. "Error," said the scale. I waited for it to reset and then got on again. 230. Really? I said. I got on one more time and it said 229. At that point I should have gotten off and gotten on one more time, because the scale has to say the same thing twice (with no "Error" message) before I believe it. But instead I thought to myself -- 229 sounds good, I'll go with that. So we'll see next week if this was real.

If in fact I did lose 2/10ths of a pound, it was probably due to exercise. I took four good walks this week. I decided to set a weight loss goal/resolution/whatever for the coming year of 1 pound a month. Even though my weight loss has slowed considerably, I think one pound a month is doable. It sounds like so little, but at the end of the year I could be down 12 more pounds! Last year on January 1st I weighed 251.6. And this year on January 1st I weighed 228.8. That's a loss of 22.8 pounds! Last year I intentionally did not make any weight loss plans because I thought it was hopeless. And sure enough I spent the first six months of the year gaining weight. But then came Mounjaro. So anyway, maybe good things will continue to happen there.

I guess that's about all I have to say today. I was looking at the Christmas cards and thinking about who we heard from this year and who we didn't hear from. We send cards to a lot of people who don't send them to us -- which is fine, no one has to send cards. But sometimes I wonder whether I'm annoying people with our letter and all that. Then today Rocket Boy decided to call an old friend who we haven't heard from in several years. They're talking now, as I write. Since we last heard from this friend he's gone through (successful) cancer treatment, his older son was hospitalized for mental health issues, and he and his wife Natalie separated and are now going through a divorce, although apparently they're on good terms. "We always enjoy your Christmas letter," I heard him say. "Natalie came over and read it too. We always like to read it." OK, I thought. I guess I'll go on sending it out. It's just one way of trying to maintain connection. Which is really the only thing that matters.

Wednesday, January 1, 2025

What I read in 2024

My goal for 2024, as usual, was to read at least 52 books (one per week). Instead, I read 122 books, more than twice as many.

Here is a review of what I read in 2024, by category.

Children's Books. I don't read children's books to the kids anymore, but I read a few to myself this year. My favorite was, of course, The Birchbark House, which is a lovely story, but I also really liked Zia, which is a sequel to Island of the Blue Dolphins and is very sad. And Totoro was very sweet and made me feel like I was watching the movie again.

  • The Birchbark House by Louise Erdrich
  • Zia by Scott O'Dell
  • My Neighbor Totoro (novelization) by Hayao Miyazaki & Tsugiko Kubo, translated by Jim Hubbert

Young Adult (YA)/Teen Books.
Since I've stopped reading to the kids, I read most of these to myself (except the first, which is the second to last book I read to them). I honestly didn't like any of them much. I don't like this genre. I keep wondering whether I would have liked it when I was a teenager, if it had existed then. I'm not sure. Anyway, my favorite was probably the John Green book, which I have read before. The kids didn't like it that much, though. We watched the movie, and it was pretty good.

  • The Fault in Our Stars by John Green (read to the kids)
  • I Am Not Your Perfect Mexican Daughter by Erika Sanchez
  • All My Rage by Sabaa Tahir (set in Ridgecrest)
  • House of Stairs by William Sleator

 

Books for the Book Group. My beloved book group continues, even though we have only three members now and two of us are on Mounjaro/Zepbound, so we don't want to eat! I liked several of these, so it's a little hard to choose a favorite. I think I'm going to go with Good Night, Irene, which was a really unusual perspective on World War II. I think the only books I really didn't like were The Promise and Loot. They were both well-meaning books, but they just didn't work for me. Oh, and Rin Tin Tin. So boring, although I learned some interesting things about dogs and dog movies.

  • January/February: On Beauty by Zadie Smith
  • March: The Heaven & Earth Grocery Store by James McBride
  • April: The Wager: A Tale of Shipwreck, Mutiny and Murder by David Grann
  • May: The Promise by Damon Galgut
  • June: Vera Wong's Unsolicited Advice for Murderers by Jesse Q. Sutanto
  • July: Good Night, Irene by Luis Alberto Urrea
  • August/September: Loot by Tania James
  • October: The Last Samurai by Helen DeWitt
  • November/December: Rin Tin Tin: The Life and the Legend by Susan Orlean

 

Mystery/Thriller.
Often a long list, but this year it was mostly just rereads of Dorothy L. Sayers. My favorite of the new books I read was probably Slow Horses, which was a fun introduction to a new series that now I get to continue reading.

  • Strong Poison by Dorothy L. Sayers (again)
  • A Cold and Silent Dying by Eleanor Taylor Bland
  • Thrones, Dominations by Dorothy L. Sayers (again)
  • Slow Horses by Mick Herron
  • Unnatural Death by Dorothy L. Sayers (again)
  • Dead Lions by Mick Herron
  • Down Cemetery Road by Mick Herron
  • Lost Birds by Anne Hillerman
  • Clouds of Witness by Dorothy L. Sayers (again)
  • The Silence of the Sea by Yrsa Sigurdardottir

Supernatural Mystery/Ghost Story.
I only read a few of these this year. Didn't really like the Tremblay, hated the last installment of Phil Rickman's beloved series. So I guess my favorite was The Penguin Book of Ghost Stories, lol. Must do better next year.
  • Horror Movie by Paul Tremblay
  • The Fever of the World by Phil Rickman
  • The Penguin Book of Ghost Stories edited by J. A. Cuddon

Science Fiction/Fantasy.
Hardly read any science fiction this year. I thought about choosing a scifi writer as one of my monthly picks, but ended up not doing that. The Cherryh book was fine, but at this point in the series she's just phoning it in. Drowning Towers was so unusual (about climate change and the destruction of society in Australia) that I'll say it was my favorite.
  • Resurgence by C. J. Cherryh
  • Drowning Towers by George Turner
 

Poetry.
I planned to read more poetry this year, but eventually petered out. Still, eight books, that's better than usual. I'm going to say my favorite was Walking Gentry Home because it was such an interesting concept, genealogy in verse. I also enjoyed the volume of Pushkin, which I started reading during the month when I was reading Nabokov, and finally finished a few days before the end of the year.
  • Tomorrow's Living Room by Jason Whitmarsh
  • Feel Free by Nick Laird
  • There's a Trick with a Knife I'm Learning to Do: Poems 1963-78 by Michael Ondaatje
  • Seems Like a Mighty Long Time: Poems by Angela Jackson
  • The Blue Estuaries: Poems 1923-1968 by Louise Bogan
  • Selected Poems of May Sarton, ed. by Serena Sue Hilsinger and Lois Brynes
  • Walking Gentry Home: A Memoir of My Foremothers in Verse by Alora Young
  • Alexander Pushkin: Selected Poetry translated by Antony Wood

 

General Fiction.
A very long list this year, on account of my plan to read multiple books by a different author each month. I liked several of these a lot: Life and Times of Michael K, The Last Night at the Ritz, Austerlitz, Jesus' Son, James, The Trial, The Painted Drum, and The Things They Carried were all really good, and I'm probably forgetting some. Any of these could have been my favorite, but I'm going to put a picture of Jesus' Son here because it probably blew me away more than any other piece of fiction I read this year.

  • White Teeth by Zadie Smith
  • Martha & Hanwell by Zadie Smith
  • Mixed Company by Jenny Shank
  • Howards End by E. M. Forster
  • NW by Zadie Smith
  • Dusklands by J. M. Coetzee
  • Waiting for the Barbarians by J. M. Coetzee
  • Excellent Women by Barbara Pym (again)
  • Life and Times of Michael K by J. M. Coetzee
  • Jane and Prudence by Barbara Pym (again)
  • The Pleasing Hour by Lily King
  • The English Teacher by Lily King
  • Father of the Rain by Lily King
  • Foe by J. M. Coetzee
  • 1984 by George Orwell (read w/Teen A for school)
  • Writers and Lovers by Lily King
  • Life of Pi by Yann Marten (read (for the 2nd time) w/Teen A for school)
  • But Not For Love by Elizabeth Savage
  • The Last Night at the Ritz by Elizabeth Savage
  • Toward the End by Elizabeth Savage
  • Mama's Bank Account by Kathryn Forbes (read to the twins)
  • Lolita by Vladimir Nabokov
  • Pale Fire by Vladimir Nabokov
  • A Revolver to Carry at Night by Monika Zgustova, translated by Julie Jones
  • The Apple in the Dark by Clarice Lispector, translated by Benjamin Moser
  • The Passion According to G.H. by Clarice Lispector, translated by Idra Novey
  • Austerlitz by W. G. Sebald, translated by Anthea Bell
  • The Hour of the Star by Clarice Lispector, translated by Benjamin Moser
  • Jesus' Son by Denis Johnson
  • The Underground Railroad by Colson Whitehead
  • American Pastoral by Philip Roth
  • James by Percival Everett
  • Salvage the Bones by Jesmyn Ward
  • Sing, Unburied, Sing by Jesmyn Ward
  • Wittgenstein's Nephew by Thomas Bernhard (also could be considered a memoir)
  • Let Us Descend by Jesmyn Ward
  • Collected Stories by Franz Kafka
  • The Trial by Franz Kafka
  • The Last Report on the Miracles at Little No Horse by Louise Erdrich
  • The Old Man and the Sea by Ernest Hemingway (read w/Teen B for school)
  • The Painted Drum by Louise Erdrich
  • The Things They Carried by Tim O'Brien (read w/Teen A for school)
  • The Posthumous Papers of the Pickwick Club by Charles Dickens
  • The Chimes by Charles Dickens
  • The Cricket on the Hearth by Charles Dickens


Christmas Books. I only read one Christmas book this year (I'm not counting the Dickens books as Christmas books) and it was appallingly awful. So I don't have a favorite, and I won't include a picture. I don't want to encourage this sort of thing.
  • The Mistletoe Mystery by Nita Prose

Graphic Novels/Memoirs/Whatever.
I only read two graphic books this year, and the second was a children's book. It was OK. But The Talk was outstanding and I'm sure it would be my favorite even if I had read several others. Really good book, with the scenes set in Berkeley as a bonus.
  • The Talk by Darrin Bell
  • Took: A Ghost Story graphic novel by Mary Downing Hahn, adapted by Scott Peterson, Jen Vaughn, & Hank Jones
 

Memoir/Diaries/Autobiography.
Looking at this list, I see that I read a lot of books about death and dying this year. I didn't mean to be morbid -- death and dying are just really interesting subjects, especially as one approaches the latter part of one's life (I'm only 64, but I might easily have lived 3/4 of my life already). Although I thoroughly enjoyed several of these books, I'm going to choose the first one as my favorite. The Bright Hour is really a good book (if you can bear to read about a young mother dying of breast cancer). I also especially liked Stay True, which brought back so many memories of my time at Berkeley. And the books by Kevin Fisher-Paulson were so comforting. I read bits of them at night when I needed something to calm me down.
  • The Bright Hour: A Memoir of Living and Dying by Nina Riggs
  • A Carnival of Losses: Notes Nearing Ninety by Donald Hall
  • Dying: A Memoir by Cory Taylor
  • Some Assembly Required: A Journal of My Son's First Son by Anne Lamott with Sam Lamott
  • The Color of Water: A Black Man's Tribute to His White Mother by James McBride
  • Night by Elie Wiesel (read w/Teen B for school)
  • Speak, Memory: An Autobiography Revisited by Vladimir Nabokov
  • Stay True: A Memoir by Hua Hsu
  • Men We Reaped: A Memoir by Jesmyn Ward
  • A Song for Lost Angels: How Daddy and Papa Fought to Save Their Family by Kevin Fisher-Paulson
  • In My Time of Dying: How I Came Face to Face with the Idea of an Afterlife by Sebastian Junger
  • How We Keep Spinning: The Journey of a Family in Stories by Kevin Fisher-Paulson
 

Biography. Now this is embarrassing. I did not read a single biography all year (except for presidential biographies). I guess I could have put the bio of Florence Harding here, but I think it really belongs with the presidential bios. Right after Christmas I read a book about Judy Blume that I thought was going to be a biography, but I ultimately decided that it wasn't one -- it was about her influence as an author, not her life. Oh well. I'll do better in 2025, I hope.


 

Presidential Biography.
I made it through four presidents this year and they were all interesting. I was surprised to find that I didn't care much for Woodrow Wilson after reading about him. He had many good points, but overall not a very effective president. Harding was a joke: his many affairs, his crazy wife, the Teapot Dome scandal, etc. Calvin Coolidge was a lot of fun, though not a very good president. And Hoover was so interesting -- such a fascinating guy, though again not very successful as president. It's hard to choose a favorite book, but I guess I'll go with Hoover (though I also loved the Coolidge bio). That was an exemplary presidential biography.

  • Woodrow Wilson by August Heckscher
  • Warren G. Harding by John W. Dean
  • The Harding Affair: Love and Espionage During the Great War by James David Robenalt
  • Florence Harding: The First Lady, the Jazz Age, and the Death of America's Most Scandalous President by Carl Sferazza Anthony
  • Calvin Coolidge: The Quiet President by Donald R. McCoy
  • Hoover: An Extraordinary Life in Extraordinary Times by Kenneth Whyte
 
General Nonfiction. Even with reading all that fiction, I managed to squeeze in the occasional work of nonfiction. Most of these were OK, but I'm not sure how to choose a favorite. I don't think I was totally blown away by any of them. I enjoyed The In-Between (more books about death and dying), and The Ship Beneath the Ice was very interesting. White Sands was a good introduction to a new writer for me (Geoff Dyer) who I plan to read more of. Rough Sleepers was a good book to read if you want to know more about the homeless crisis. But a favorite???? Could be any of those.

  • Changing My Mind: Occasional Essays by Zadie Smith
  • The In-Between: Unforgettable Encounters During Life's Final Moments by Hadley Vlahos
  • Shadow Divers: The True Adventure of Two Americans Who Risked Everything to Solve One of the Last Mysteries of World War II by Robert Kurson
  • Small Victories: Spotting Improbable Moments of Grace by Anne Lamott
  • Hallelujah Anyway: Rediscovering Mercy by Anne Lamott
  • Eating in the Light of the Moon: How Women Can Transform Their Relationships with Food Through Myth, Metaphor, and Storytelling by Anita Johnston
  • The Ship Beneath the Ice: The Discovery of Shackleton's Endurance by Mensun Bound
  • Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough by Lori Gottlieb
  • Beyond the Hundredth Meridian: John Wesley Powell and the Second Opening of the West by Wallace Stegner
  • The Birds That Audubon Missed: Discovery and Desire in the American Wilderness by Kenn Kaufman
  • Telltale Hearts: A Public Health Doctor, His Patients, and the Power of Story by Dean-David Schillinger
  • A Walk in the Woods by Dick Chavey
  • White Sands: Experiences from the Outside World by Geoff Dyer
  • Love is Stronger Than Death: The Mystical Union of Two Souls by Cynthia Bourgeault
  • The Last Days of Roger Federer: And Other Endings by Geoff Dyer
  • Rough Sleepers: Dr. Jim O'Connell's Urgent Mission to Bring Healing to Homeless People by Tracy Kidder
  • The Genius of Judy: How Judy Blume Rewrote Childhood for All of Us by Rachelle Bergstein