Sunday, November 28, 2021

Thanksgiving week

Well, it's Sunday evening and the kids go back to school tomorrow. Thank goodness! Good riddance to noisy, smelly, messy teenagers! I mean, not permanently, but just for a while. On our way home from a movie and errands today, Rocket Boy whispered to me, "Do they really go away tomorrow?" and I whispered back, "Yes! For several hours!" and he sighed in delight.

It's been a good week, don't get me wrong. It's just that we're old and tired and we need our rest. 

What did we do this week? Several things, falling into various categories:

  1. Saw movies.
  2. Celebrated Thanksgiving.
  3. Took a short trip to Wyoming.
  4. Celebrated the Baby Kitty's 2nd birthday.
  5. Celebrated the 1st Sunday of Advent and the 1st night of Hanukkah.

1. Saw movies

The kids have been asking me for WEEKS if we could go to another movie in a theatre, and I've been putting them off, putting them off. So this week I said we could see a movie. Or movies, as it turned out, because they had a long list of things they wanted to see. We ended up seeing FOUR different movies at the Cinemark Theatres in Boulder, plus one on DVD at home. Considering that I am not that much of a movie fan anymore, it was a lot.

  • On Monday the kids and I saw Clifford the Big Red Dog. They both wanted to see it.
  • On Tuesday, the kids and I saw Ghostbusters: The Afterlife. They both wanted to see it and I was slightly less horrified about having to see it than the other kids' movies.
  • On Wednesday, the kids and I saw Encanto. They both wanted to see it, but especially Teen B.
  • On Thursday night, we all watched the original Ghostbusters on DVD at home.
  • Today, Sunday, we all saw Dune (2021). This was Rocket Boy's choice.

Of these, Dune was definitely my favorite. I was actually interested in the story and I thought the acting was good. I have somehow never read the book (will probably have to do that now), so I didn't know what to expect and sometimes had trouble following the plot. But for the most part my attention was held. 

The other movies -- well, I'm pretty tired of kids' movies and none of these were even great kids' movies. Clifford the Big Red Dog -- why did we even have to go to that? The only other people in the theatre had brought little kids, like three-four-five years old little kids. I have no idea why my 13-year-olds needed to be there. Ghostbusters: The Afterlife was better, but not enough better. It was more of a tribute to the original Ghostbusters (which is why we then had to watch the original, since the twins had no memory of having seen it before, even though I'm sure they had) than a truly original movie. I was also disturbed by a similarity between this and Clifford: both featured a 12-year-old white girl with a small Asian boy as a sidekick. Diversity in movies is always nice -- it's fantastic in Dune -- but when two kids' movies come up with the same idea to make the movie "diverse," it feels weird.

Oh, and Encanto. A lot of fuss about nothing, in my opinion. Beautiful graphics, pleasant (forgettable) songs, and absolutely no plot at all. No villain, no conflict. They were upset about something but I couldn't figure out what. Plus, I often couldn't understand what the characters were singing or saying (so maybe there was a plot, but I missed it). A total waste of my time. I don't know why it's getting such good reviews. Well, maybe it was better than Clifford the Big Red Dog.

Teen B also wanted to see House of Gucci, but we didn't manage that one. Maybe next weekend. And he wants to see Sing 2, but fortunately that won't be out until near Christmas. Oh, God, I'll probably have to see a whole bunch more movies during Christmas vacation. Rocket Boy certainly won't go. He was very upset by the experience of seeing Dune. They wouldn't let him bring his backpack into the theatre, he thought the sound was too loud, and he was horrified by the number of ads we had to watch before the movie started. I was actually pleased that we got to see some new ads -- I saw exactly the same ads for all three kids' movies. But there's a horrible ad with Matt Damon hawking cryptocurrency that I have now seen four times and it was unpleasant the first time. Today when I saw it beginning again I thought I was going to vomit. 

Yeah, it's been a fun week with movies. And I didn't get to see anything I wanted to see (to be honest, there isn't anything in theatres right now that I really want to see).

2. Celebrated Thanksgiving

Rocket Boy wanted us to go on a trip this week, and he thought we should leave on Wednesday, thus skipping Thanksgiving. But I objected. The kids want to do Thanksgiving, I said, and I hate having Thanksgiving in a restaurant. It's always terribly expensive and not very good. So he agreed that we could have a normal Thanksgiving at home and go on a trip the next day.

The menu: cranberry chutney, sweet potato casserole, spicy spinach dish, stuffing, mashed potatoes, gravy, Pillsbury crescent rolls, swordfish with lemon-caper sauce, and pumpkin pie with whipped cream. Oh, and sparkling cider to drink.

I'm perfectly capable of making most of this by myself (Rocket Boy does the mashed potatoes and gravy), but I thought that this year the twins should be more involved. So I read off the list to them and told them to choose two dishes to help with. Teen A chose pumpkin pie and swordfish; Teen B chose stuffing and gravy. And then they actually helped! Teen B was not that interested, but he did cut up the celery for the stuffing, and he did some mixing and stirring. Teen A, on the other hand, was totally into the pie-making. He insisted on doing it all himself (while I read the directions), and then for the rest of the vacation he referred to me as "Bad at pumpkin pie making," since apparently if he is good at it, I must be bad at it. 

I'm OK with that. I was just so pleased he helped.

He didn't do too much with the swordfish (not much to do, plus it involved the scary broiler) and Teen B annoyed Rocket Boy by not wanting to stir the gravy, but it's a start, ya know? I'm very encouraged. We will definitely repeat this next year.

After the delicious dinner we took a walk together, and then we watched the original Ghostbusters as we ate the pumpkin pie. Totally something out of Norman Rockwell. A very nice day.

3. Took a short trip to Wyoming

I really would have preferred to spend Friday reading on my bed, but I had promised Rocket Boy we could take a trip (gotta help reduce inflation), so I pulled myself together and packed a small bag. And off we went to Cheyenne, Wyoming for some R&R. Not most people's idea of a place to rest and relax, but we actually had a very nice time. It's only 100 miles away and you can take I-25 for most of it, so it's fast. We went first to the Air Force base, and Rocket Boy's current job credentials were enough to get us past the guard shack and off to the museum (which is pretty cheesy, but nice). The not very great exhibits were further enhanced by a lot of Santa Claus dolls and other Xmas decor piled all over everything. I bought some souvenirs. On our way out we got lost, but in the process we saw a herd of antelope and some magpies, so it was worth it. Rocket Boy and I did a lot of reminiscing about when we used to drive to Cheyenne to TEACH at the base for 8 hours straight on Saturdays. This trip was more fun, but those trips had their charm too.

Then we went to play mini golf at the Ice & Events Center, getting there just in time, as it was getting late (around 4 pm) and darkish. They supposedly close at dark, but it was fairly dark by the time we left and another family was just getting started. Otherwise we were the only people on the course. 

After mini golf, we checked into our hotel (a Days Inn). I had gotten a large, airy room with two queen beds and a set of bunk beds, which was great (though the beds weren't actually comfortable, unfortunately). Rocket Boy and I shared one queen bed, Teen A took the other, and Teen B took the lower bunk bed. There was a curtain you could pull across the bunk beds, presumably to help put small children to sleep while their parents stay up and watch TV or whatever, but Teen B liked the curtain because it gave him privacy.

We had dinner at Shari's, a chain that we used to eat at in Laramie. Then back to the hotel for swimming: there was a nice pool (though a little chilly) and we spent an hour in it. There was another family with two boys there too, from Idaho. (You meet the most interesting people in Wyoming.) The hot tub, unfortunately but not surprisingly, was broken.

The next morning we had a rather spartan, free breakfast (apparently due to supply chain problems, though it seemed to me they could have gone to the grocery store) and then lay around the room reading (me and Rocket Boy) or playing stupid video games (the twins) until it was time to check out at 11. Then we drove to the Cheyenne Botanic Gardens, which I had not known existed, and had a lovely time touring the indoor conservatory. (The grounds are probably beautiful in June, but not so much in November. Plus it was very windy, as it almost always is in Cheyenne.) I bought some things at the gift shop, as a way of giving back, since the Gardens were free (I also stuck $5 in a donation box and Rocket Boy gave the receptionist $10). 

Then we drove back to Boulder, stopping for lunch at Johnson's Corner truck stop, where we had stopped for lunch on our way up the day before. We had left the cats on their own, with some extra food, so it was important to get home that day. Our Thanksgiving leftovers were all in the fridge, waiting for us, so dinner was no problem at all.

4. Celebrated the Baby Kitty's 2nd Birthday

Mr. Merlino actually turned two on Saturday, but we were too tired to do anything about it yesterday, so today after seeing Dune and buying Teen A some new shoes, we picked up a small cake at King Soopers and took it home for a party.

This is not a good photo, but I chose it because you can just barely sort of vaguely see the Baby Kitty, as he escapes from Teen A's arms. Rocket Boy had just said happy birthday to him, which scared him for some reason. He is still not totally sure about RB.

Merlin did not have any cake, of course (I offered him a forkful of mine but he declined), but we enjoyed it. After the cake, we opened his birthday present, which I bought several weeks ago and saved until now. It's a cat tunnel, a little like one I saw in the "Breaking Cat News" comic strip. 

Baby Kitty obligingly went in it (Sillers bit him on the neck while he was in there), but it wasn't as big a hit as we had hoped. Maybe he and Sillers will play with it more later, after their naps. Or maybe in the middle of the night, that's always a good time. Or tomorrow morning, after the twins go to school. We're all looking forward to that. Have I mentioned that?

5.  Celebrated the 1st Sunday of Advent and the 1st night of Hanukkah

As if this week wasn't busy enough, today is both the first Sunday of Advent and the first night of Hanukkah! So I begged and pleaded with Rocket Boy to find the box with the advent wreath and the hanukkiah in it, and after dinner (more Thanksgiving leftovers) he did so. And we lighted the first candle of Advent and the first candle (plus the shumash) of Hanukkah. And all was right with the world.

The week ahead should be quieter -- the twins go back to school, which will be wonderful. (Maybe I should stop saying that.) Rocket Boy and I have a zoom call tomorrow, and then he has a medical appointment. My book group meets at 5:30. After that, the days will be simpler until next Saturday when Teen B is scheduled to march in the Parade of Lights. Oh, and we also have a tour of one of the high schools on Thursday night. That'll be interesting. But other than that the days should be pretty low-key. Rocket Boy will work. I'll do this and that. We'll put up the tree (I hope). It'll be good. He will probably leave next Sunday, a week from today, and that will be sad. But I think (I hope) he will be back a few weeks later for Christmas.

As the end of the year rushes toward us, I feel the need to revisit my resolutions and see whether there are any undone that I could still do. Colorado Gives Day is coming up, so I'll need to plan for that. And I liked what I did last year, celebrating Kwanzaa by giving money and buying from Black-owned businesses and authors. I have some more reading to do to finish those goals, so there's that too. And of course Christmas stuff -- baking, cards, and a bit of shopping. The kids have three more weeks of school and then two weeks off. We might plan another trip for after Christmas (somewhere farther afield than Cheyenne), though I'm wondering what this new covid variant is going to do to travel. Ah, well, we can still plan and hope, even though it may not work out. Kind of like life in general. Enjoy it while you can.

Sunday, November 21, 2021

Vacation week

Thanksgiving vacation has begun and Rocket Boy has come home, so we are the usual mixture of very happy and somewhat irritated. It's nice to have him home. 

He arrived about 7:30 pm Saturday, after a day in which I vacuumed the whole house AND cleaned the bathroom, plus did a load of laundry and cooked and tidied. (The house looked really nice and RB noticed and commented.) For the last hour or so he had been sending us short texts each time he drove past a town or landmark: Limon, Byers, Sapp bros, Scotts (i.e., the restaurant Great Scott's), and then Home. We all got that "Home" text, looked at each other, and then shouted, "Dad's here!" He was waiting outside for us to notice his message.

I had made dinner -- baked tofu, some leftover rice, broccoli -- and there wasn't really enough. The "boys," all three of them, were fighting over the last of it. I'm used to cooking for three, not four!

Today he kept asking me, "What's the plan?" "What are we doing today?" "What should we do now?" I finally had to explain to him that we usually take it easy on Sunday. I do the kids' laundry, sometimes we go to Starbucks for treats, sometimes I go to the library,  I write a blog post off and on through the afternoon, the kids play computer games. "Oh, OK," he said, and busied himself switching out the screen doors for the storm doors.

But he wanted to do something more ambitious, too, so I jumped online and got us entry tickets for the Denver Museum of Nature and Science at 3 pm. They have an exhibit that wasn't open yet when he was here in October: "Survival of the Slowest." It has live animals! (also some statues) The Zoo must be jealous. 

There was a big open area with five Sulcata tortoises. They weren't super big. There was a sign explaining that people adopt them when they're little and then get overwhelmed when they get big, but I thought the exhibit wasn't very convincing in that way. If people think this is as big as they get, they'll probably say, oh, I could handle that, and then, whoops, what to do when they actually get enormous?

Most of the animals in the exhibit are reptiles, so you figure they're probably OK with the whole thing. Reptiles are pretty easygoing. There were lizards, a chameleon, a skink, a very fat toad, a tarantula.

Oh, but the sloth! There was a beautiful two-toed sloth and it was so adorable. I saw it yawn and scratch its eye. It has such long hard nails, I was sure it was going to rip its own eye out. It didn't, though. It just yawned again and went back to sleep. The volunteer nearby said it likes to find a comfortable place in its enclosure and then just stay there for hours.

We also enjoyed the boa constrictors. The volunteer said there were four of them in the enclosure. We could only see one, a very friendly, interactive one, and then a big heap, which apparently was three others. There was also a tortoise in with them. We thought the tortoise looked worried.

The twins eventually got tired and ran off to the Health Exhibit, but Rocket Boy and I went over to the guitar exhibit. That was OK. It probably would have been very exciting for someone who was really interested in guitars. 

We almost always go to Great Scott's on our way home from the museum, but this time we went to the Chili's in Westminster because it's near the Honeybaked Ham place and we wanted to get a blueberry coffeecake. No ham -- we're planning to have swordfish for Thanksgiving dinner, if there's any in the stores. But we like that coffeecake. It's a special treat. I also got a bag of rolls, though they looked kind of stale. I never make my own rolls.

We still haven't decided how we're going to spend the rest of the week, but we have at least agreed that there will be a Thanksgiving dinner at home. Rocket Boy would have been happy to skip it, but the boys actually want it. They remember all the yummy side dishes that we always have and they're eager to eat them. Today, on my way home from the library (I went before we went to Denver) I stopped at Safeway to buy Rocket Boy some oat milk, and while I was there I picked up a bag of cranberries, and so then I also had to get a jalapeno pepper, and a jar of crystallized ginger. I will have to study my cranberry sauce recipe to see if there are any other odd ingredients I need to buy, but those two always come to mind. Onion, garlic, a lemon, dry mustard, a cinnamon stick? I can't remember if I have those. Well, I need to go to the store anyway.

But I don't know if we're going to go on a little trip after Thanksgiving or not. Rocket Boy suggested we go to Glenwood Springs, but that would mean driving I-70 over Vail Pass on Sunday afternoon when everyone who's gone to the mountains would be driving home, and I'm just not willing to do that. Maybe we will end up going to Wyoming instead. It will probably be uncrowded.

I was a little freaked out by the dearth of masks at the Denver Museum. Denver hasn't reinstated its mask mandate, so masks are "recommended," but not required. I'd say maybe half the people at the museum were wearing them. At first I thought all the maskless people were rule-flouting anti-vaxxers, but eventually I realized that they weren't breaking rules, they were ignoring recommendations. It's not really the same thing. It's quite possible many of them were vaxxed.

I think the last time we all went to the museum together may have been last March, the day of the King Soopers shooting in Boulder. Nothing like that today, but I was just reading about the SUV that mowed down a lot of people at a Christmas parade in Wisconsin. Our holiday parade is on December 4th and Teen B will be marching in it. Sigh. I don't want to worry about something like that happening. Why do people do this?

Tomorrow I'm supposed to take the kids to a movie. I think we're going to see "Clifford the Big Red Dog." I'm not excited about it -- haven't we gotten beyond these sorts of movies yet? -- but it's OK. Rocket Boy has a dentist appointment to get his new crown. I'd rather see a movie than do that. 

I don't have to worry about cleaning this week because the house is freshly clean, just keep up with the kitchen, do laundry, scoop the litter boxes, and all that. Rocket Boy will work, the twins will goof off, he'll get mad because they're on their devices all the time, and I'll try not to get in the middle of that argument. We'll make a puzzle, play some games (I hope). I need to figure out what else I need from the store. I should probably make the cranberry sauce on Tuesday or Wednesday. The rest can be made on Thursday -- it's not that hard. Sweet potatoes, regular potatoes, stuffing, spinach dish, pumpkin pie. Some kind of sauce for the swordfish, gravy, whipped cream. Several bottles of sparkling cider. Am I forgetting anything?

Friday, November 19, 2021

Reading post: Indian Captive and other children's books

I have finished my eleventh book for the Classics Challenge, so I'm almost done. I think I will save the 12th book for December. Today I am writing about what I read for category #9, "A children's classic." I actually read four books for this category, all written by white authors, because I was trying to get a sense of how Native Americans have been presented to American children through fiction. The books I read were published between 1941 and 1970. The protagonists of the first two are white and those of the later two are Indian. It is worth noting that all four books are historical fiction -- they all subtly perpetuate the idea that Indians are a part of the past, not the present.

As I read, I started wondering about what a children's book really is. I should know -- I've been reading them all my life. But none of the four books I read seem like typical children's books. I am not sure any of them would be published today without some revision.

The book that I decided to count for the Challenge is Indian Captive: The Story of Mary Jemison by Lois Lenski, published in 1941, about a white girl who was captured by the Seneca in the 1700s. This was not my original choice for this category, and I probably would not have read it if my cousin Marina hadn't recommended it. I hated Lois Lenski when I was a kid. Her books always seemed so depressing. It never would have occurred to me that she would have written a worthwhile book about Indians. But she did. It was part of a series of historical children's books she wrote, before she wrote the "regional" books that I hated so desperately. Indian Captive was a Newbery honor book in 1942.

Mary Jemison was a real person, born in 1743 on board the ship her parents took from Ireland to North America. Her family's home in Pennsylvania was attacked by a group of Seneca Indians and Frenchmen when she was a young girl, and all within were captured except her two older brothers who escaped. Her parents and three other siblings were murdered soon after, but Mary was brought to Fort Duquesne (controlled by the French), where she was given to two Seneca women whose brother had been killed in the French & Indian War the year before. They adopted Mary as his replacement. She ended up living with the Seneca the rest of her life. She had the chance to go back to white society a few different times, but by then she was married and a mother. So she chose to stay with the Seneca. She lived to be 91.

Her story was first published in 1824, when a minister named James E. Seaver wrote it up as the Narrative of the Life of Mrs. Mary Jemison. It is a "captivity narrative," a genre that was especially popular in the 1600s and 1700s because so many white settlers were captured by Indians (sometimes aided by the French) and later escaped or were released. When I was first planning my reading list for the Challenge, I considered including a captivity narrative as one of my books. Mary Jemison's story was especially interesting because she chose to stay with the Seneca. Lenski's book is not the only retelling; there are many versions of the story, some for adults and some for children. 

Lenski's novel, Indian Captive, begins with a fairly accurate description of what happened to Mary (or Molly, as Lenski usually calls her), but gradually deviates from the true story. It's quite interesting to compare her book with the real Narrative. There is some question about how old Mary was when she was captured: she says it happened in 1755, when she would have been 12, but there are indications that it may actually have been 1758, when she would have been 15. Lenski says, in her interesting Foreword to the book, "I have chosen to keep her twelve," presumably because that makes her more of a child, and thus easier for Lenski's readers to identify with her. Of the four "children's" books I read, this one is the most clearly intended for children (Amazon rates it as being for Grades 5-6). But in order to make that true, Lenski had to bury key parts of the real story.

Lenski's book covers about two years of Molly's life, but it includes experiences that the real Mary had over a longer period of time -- and leaves out others. For instance, by the time the real Mary traveled to Genishau with the Seneca, which happens after about a year in Indian Captive, she was married and had a baby. But Lenski omits any suggestion that Mary/Molly will soon be married, probably because she is trying to "keep her" a child. (Perhaps also the idea of her marrying an Indian would have been challenging to a 1941 white audience?) She also makes changes that seem to be attempts to improve the story. In Indian Captive, Molly is first called "Corn Tassel" because of her blond hair, and later earns the name "Little Woman of Great Courage" because she decides to stay with the Seneca. But Mary Jemison's real Seneca name was neither of these. Lenski also chooses to make one of Molly's new sisters mean and the other kind. In Mary Jemison's narrative she refers to both sisters very positively.

The real triumph of Indian Captive is its positive portrayal of the Seneca. Although Molly starts out hating and fearing them, she gradually comes to like and admire them. While the real Mary stayed with the Seneca because her Indian children would have no place in white society, Molly in the book stays because the Seneca are her family now. At the end, she acknowledges that she was never very good at sitting still and doing needlework. The Seneca have taught her to be more patient, but she also just feels more comfortable with them and their world. She feels that her life is more pleasant than it would have been as a white lady. That seems like a radical concept for 1941, and I admire Lois Lenski for putting it in her book.

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The second children's book I read was Rifles for Watie by Harold Keith, published in 1957. I originally picked this up last year when I was looking for books to read about the Civil War. But when that challenge morphed into books about the Black experience, I set this aside. This year, when I decided to read books about Native Americans, I remembered Rifles and decided it was time to read it. It was my first choice for the children's category until I found Indian Captive.

Rifles for Watie is the story of Jefferson Davis (Jeff) Bussey, a Kansas farm boy who enlists in the Union Army in 1861 when he is 16 years old. He falls in love with a part-Cherokee girl he meets when his unit is stationed in Tahlequah, the capital city of Cherokee Nation in what later became Oklahoma. But she is a rebel, like most Cherokees, and her brother and father are fighting with Stand Watie, a Cherokee general in the Confederate Army. While on scout duty one night, Jeff finds himself surrounded by Watie's men and, to save his own life, pretends to want to join them. He then spends 14 months with the rebels, much of that time laid low with malaria but also fighting with them against the Union occasionally. Finally he learns who on the Union side is illegally selling "repeating rifles" to Watie (hence the novel's title). He runs away from the rebels to deliver that information to the Union Army, with whom he finishes out the war.

So it's an unusual Civil War book, with great sympathy for both sides, although Jeff never truly becomes a rebel. Trying to read between the lines, I wonder whether Oklahoma native Harold Keith wanted to write a pro-Confederacy book and this was the closest he could come. There are very few Black characters in the novel and they are either "happy slaves" (or former slaves, I guess, but still slaving away for their former owners) or portrayed as kind of stupid, speaking terrible broken English. But the Cherokee characters are much more nuanced -- Keith obviously thought highly of them. Maybe his real goal was to write about the Cherokee; maybe making his protagonist a Kansas white boy was just a way to attract more kids to read the book. When Jeff first meets Lucy, the Cherokee girl he falls in love with, he registers her Indian looks but is not put off by them:

...Although the girl's skin had a brownish cast, her complexion was lovelier than wild strawberries. Breathless, he wondered what any girl that pretty was doing in this far-off Indian town.

So there is that implication that being "brownish" is not attractive, and that great beauty was not to be expected in a "far-off Indian town," but otherwise, and ever after this, Jeff finds Lucy stunning. Also, I noticed that she is usually referred to (in Jeff's thinking) as "that rebel girl," not "that Indian girl," which also seems significant -- she's allowed to be defined by her opinions, not her ancestry. Many other Cherokee characters are also portrayed positively. Jeff learns to admire Stand Watie's troops, and Lucy convinces him (in a long, completely unrealistic discussion where the two of them sound like a couple of college professors) that the Cherokees' support for the Confederacy is justified. Sometimes it seems as though it is only the thought of his own family being overrun by Confederate troops that keeps Jeff on the Union side.

The book was fun for me because it hearkened back to some of the books I read earlier in the Challenge, especially The Life and Adventures of Joaquin Murieta, the Celebrated California Bandit by John Rollin Ridge, published in 1854. Ridge was a cousin of Stand Watie and much of what we know about him comes from letters he wrote to Watie. Also, Lucy's explanation for why the Cherokee don't like the U.S. Government involves the story of the fights among the Cherokee over whether to agree to move from Georgia to Oklahoma. Harold Keith manages to include a lot of interesting Cherokee history in the novel.

I enjoyed Rifles for Watie, although I think it's just as well I didn't read it to my boys. It's a bit long (332 pages) and dry for them, there's a lot of tobacco use, the n-word comes up now and then, there are those apologies for the Confederacy -- I don't want to say it's outdated, because it's still a very good book, but maybe better for older kids or even adults, who have a better chance of parsing its mixed messages. Amazon rates it as being for Grades 8-12, and it is apparently now considered a "Teen" book rather than a children's book, even though it won the Newbery Medal (for "distinguished contributions to American literature for children") in 1958.

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The third book I read was The Story Catcher by Mari Sandoz, published in 1963. When I was trying to choose my book for this category, I came across a couple of children's books about the Sioux by Sandoz, The Horsecatcher and The Story Catcher. The Bookworm had copies of both and I looked at them, but didn't choose them because they seemed dry, plain, uninteresting. It's that university press problem again -- they don't know how to design their books to appeal to a non-scholarly audience (or maybe they don't care to). 

But when I went back to the Bookworm to look for (and find) Indian Captive, I looked at these books again and decided I could read one, for comparison purposes. I chose The Story Catcher because it was Sandoz's last book and it won a couple of awards.

Sandoz was a Nebraska writer, born in 1896, and my mother was a big fan of her work. I've read Old Jules, her biography/memoir of her Swiss immigrant father, which blew me away, but I hadn't read any of her many books about Indians, both fiction and nonfiction. I don't have a good sense of how her work is currently rated, in particular whether her portrayal of Indians is still considered accurate, fair, etc. There is a biography of her, from 1982 -- of course our library doesn't have it, but I decided I'd like to read it, so I just now ordered a used copy (from someone in Lincoln, Nebraska, which seemed appropriate -- I looked him up and he's a music professor who I guess sells books in his spare time). 

One thing I've read about Sandoz is that she researched her Indian books heavily, conducted interviews with elders, read through crumbling manuscripts. Having recently read the almost-ethnography Waterlily by Ella Cara Deloria, I was struck by how similar the world portrayed in The Story Catcher is. And of course, they are supposed to be the same, more or less. They are both about the Lakota, though different branches of the tribe.

The Story Catcher is the coming of age story of Lance, a Sioux teenager (we don't know his exact age, but I'm guessing he might be 15 or 16 or 17 at the start of the book, roughly similar to Jeff Bussey in Rifles for Watie). It's clearly the 1800s, because whites are starting to encroach, but I didn't see anything in the book that explained when in the 1800s. The blurb on the back of the paperback says it's the 1840s, but I don't know how the blurb knows that. I really would have appreciated some explanatory material: a Foreword, an Afterword, something. The only clue we get is the dedication:

Dedicated to the Bad Heart Bull Family,
a long line of story catchers,
and particularly to Amos Bad Heart Bull,
artist and great historian of the Oglala Sioux

Wikipedia tells me that Amos Bad Heart Bull lived from 1868 to 1913, so Sandoz could have known him when she was a teenager (she would have been 16 or 17 when he died), but perhaps she only knew him by reputation. According to Wikipedia, his drawings influenced the design of the interior of the Nebraska state capitol building.

Anyway, back to Lance and The Story Catcher. Like Waterlily, The Story Catcher is mostly just incidents in the life of the tribe, but with a close focus on Lance. Like any teenager, Lance takes a lot of risks: some get him in a lot of trouble, while others end in triumph. He comes close to dying several times, but always manages to save himself. By the end of the book he has proved himself to be not only brave, honorable, and worthy of the girl he loves, but also the tribe's new artist and historian (like Amos Bad Heart Bull and his father).

I probably would not read this to my kids -- it's slow-moving and sometimes a little hard to follow, very different from a modern children's book. I think they would get bored. The writing is lovely, though, and the story of Lance is moving. Sandoz would have been about 67 when the book was published; for an old white woman, she did an amazing job of portraying the mind of a young Sioux warrior. Still, I wonder what makes this a children's book. Is it the focus on a young person? The lack of sex? There is one scene where I think Lance possibly comes close to having sex with the girl he loves, but it's so wildly understated that I wasn't sure. The thing is, there was no sex in Waterlily either, and yet I never thought that seemed like a children's book. There is no shortage of violence in this book -- true of all four books I read, incidentally. Amazon claims it is for Grades 7-9. Hmm.

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Finally, I read Sing Down the Moon by Scott O'Dell, published in 1970. O'Dell also wrote Island of the Blue Dolphins, another important children's book about Indians of the past written by a white person, but of course I'd already read it (in elementary school, and also more recently, to my kids). I had never read any of O'Dell's other books, and only came upon this one because it was in a Little Free Library in our neighborhood. I wasn't even going to take it, but Teen B told me I should. I put it in our "to be read" pile, but then pulled it out to read to myself for this challenge. It's another Newbery honor book.

I was surprised to discover that O'Dell was only two years younger than Mari Sandoz, though he went on publishing until his death at age 91 in 1989, with two books published posthumously. Sandoz's last book was The Story Catcher, published in 1963, and she died in 1966, which is probably why I thought she was much older. Like Sandoz, O'Dell wrote historical novels about the area where he grew up, in his case California.

This is the first book I've read for the Challenge about the Navajo, but it felt familiar because of all the Tony Hillerman (and now Anne Hillerman) Navajo mysteries I've read! Those books often mention the Long Walk of 1864-65, when the U.S. Government forced the Navajo to leave their land in Arizona and walk to eastern New Mexico, a journey of 300 miles or more. Many of the Navajo died along the way. They were forcibly detained in New Mexico for a few years, and many more of them died during this time. In 1868 the Navajo were allowed to return to their land, which they hold still. But it was a terrible, defining episode in their nation's history.

Sing Down the Moon tells the story of Bright Morning, who is 15 years old when the book begins (not 14, as it says on the back of the book). She lives a rather idyllic life, driving her mother's sheep up into the hills to eat grass every day, though the Long Knives (white Government people) threaten to burn the village down if its warriors go on a raid. One day while she is out with the sheep, she and a friend are captured by Spanish slavers. But after a few months they manage to escape and return to their village, resuming their pleasant life. Bright Morning has her Womanhood Ceremony and is interested in a young man called Tall Boy, who was injured while helping her return from slavery.

Then, just past the halfway point in this rather short book, the Long Knives come back, and this time it's serious. They post a notice saying that the community must leave their home. The people try fleeing to a nearby mesa, but the Long Knives wait them out, and when they are starving, they come down from the mesa and begin the Long Walk to New Mexico. While the book ends happily, we first hear many sad and terrible stories about this experience.

I was puzzled by this book. Who is it for? It is written in simple language, with short sentences and short chapters, so kids certainly can read it. But would they want to? Bright Morning is 15 at the start of the book, and maybe 17-18 at the end, married and with a baby. Much of the subject matter is deadly serious and depressing. But Amazon claims it is for Grades 3-7, and some of the reviewers talk about it being appropriate for elementary school children: "My ten year old enjoyed reading this." I will say one thing: there is no sex. When Bright Morning and Tall Boy marry, he moves into her family's hut, which is already overcrowded.

...Now there was no room, so we made a lean-to of willow poles and earth nearby. It was really more of a cave and in it we stored the things we did not use every day and food if we had more than we needed, which was not often.

That's all we get: no information about where anybody sleeps, just that they built a "lean-to" to store the stuff that now wouldn't fit in the hut because a large young husband has been added to it. A few months later we hear that Bright Morning is going to have a baby, so sex must have occurred, but you sure wouldn't know it. Did someone writing a "children's book" in 1970 really have to be this discrete? Or maybe Scott O'Dell, in his 70s, felt uncomfortable saying anything more.

I read one review from an adult learning English who said they used Sing Down the Moon in her English class and everyone enjoyed reading it. That makes sense to me, because the book presents adult content in very easy to read language. But is it a children's book? I thought about O'Dell's Island of the Blue Dolphins, which is about a young woman left behind on an island when the rest of her tribe is taken to the California mainland. She lives alone on the island for many years before she is finally discovered. It was required reading when I was in elementary school in California. Is that a children's book? I think because Karana, the girl, lives alone, she always seems young. And I admit that Bright Morning always seems young too, despite her husband and child. Sing Down the Moon is in some ways like a preteen's fantasy of adult life.

I'm not sure whether I will read this to my kids or not. I think I will put it back in the "to be read" pile and see if anyone chooses it (we alternate who gets to pick the next book). I may not choose it, but I'll see if one of them does. 

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And to sum up, what did I learn from reading these four books? Well, as I noted at the beginning of this post, they are all historical. Nothing about Indians today; these are all stories of the past. Scott O'Dell does note, in his Postscript, that the Navajo still exist:

Some 1500 Navahos died at Fort Sumner from smallpox and other diseases. But the group who survived has grown to more than 100,000. The Navahos wanted to live. Like Bright Morning, they thirsted for life. They still do.

So that's kind of a nice thing to say, although why wouldn't the Navajo "thirst for life"? Don't all human beings? And then he goes on to add -- his last comment -- 

You will see girls who look much like her, tending their sheep now in Canyon de Chelly. They are dressed in velveteen blouses, a half-dozen ruffled and flounced petticoats, their hair tied in chignons -- a style copied from the officers' wives at Fort Sumner long ago.

I mean, it's interesting that the Navajo costume is based on what the officers' wives at Fort Sumner wore (this is not mentioned in the novel), but it seems like a weird way to end. It makes the Navajo seem almost stupid, out of date, unaware that the times and the fashions have moved on. 

I'm probably being too critical. Just having a little trouble making sense of everything. All the books I read portrayed Indians in a positive light. Maybe just a little bit too "other"? Maybe in their valiant attempts to portray them as good people, these white authors occasionally forgot that Native Americans are also human beings.

Sunday, November 14, 2021

November browns

Another Sunday, another blog post. November is chugging along quite reasonably. We've had decent weather -- snow in the mountains but nothing down here, just a little chilly some days. Today it's in the 60s and windy. We could use some moisture, but there's only a slight chance of any this week. I keep forgetting to water the plants that are still alive at the front of the house. By this time of year you would expect everything to be dead or dormant.

I'm busily doing November things, that is to say, I'm reading November books. I've read a few Indian books already and am working on another. I also have a presidential biography out of the library (that's Rutherford B. Hayes, my fourth of the year) and a book by David Brooks on how to live a moral life. 

Oh, and I voted -- two weeks ago. I'm having trouble paying attention to the news, everything upsets me terribly. But I'm trying to be a good citizen. Not doing so well on raking leaves, though. They're everywhere. All the pretty trees are done. It's November, the time of year when you think about the pretty leaves that were so recently with us but now are gone.

Rocket Boy is driving out for Thanksgiving and will stay for two weeks. He's going to leave St. Louis on Friday, which means he'll arrive here late Saturday, the 20th. Then we'll have all of Thanksgiving week together, plus he's planning to stay one week afterwards, long enough to watch Teen B play his clarinet in the marching band during the Parade of Lights on December 4th. 

This means, of course, that I have to clean the house! But it's OK. First of all, the house is not in bad shape (or not as bad as it sometimes is). Second, I have a whole five and a half days to work on it (or at least think about working on it). Third, my plan is that while RB is here, we will decorate for Christmas -- dreadfully early by our standards, but not by other people's -- so I need to clean up with that in mind, too. Maybe that will be inspiring.

It will be extremely weird if we manage to pull that off. We never ever put the tree up during the first week of December. But if we don't do it while RB is here, the kids and I will have to do it all by ourselves, like last year, and that's such a pain. Especially since our old fake tree is disintegrating. I want RB to see how hard it is to assemble these days. Maybe he'll be motivated to replace it. I say that -- but I don't think we will. You can't get fake trees like our old one anymore. We'll probably just do something to try to keep it going. What that might be, I don't know.

It just occurred to me that I should also get our Christmas letter and cards ready. I always like to send them out early, but this seems SOOOO early. Still, it would be a good idea. Maybe RB can go with me to buy cards -- McGuckin's has nice ones, or there's always Target. Then he can sign all the cards before he goes back to St. Louis. And I can have a draft of the letter ready for him to approve. Good grief! I'm not ready to write a Christmas letter! But it's time, or almost. Better put that on the list.

I'm still struggling with the problem of schedules and planners, to-do lists and "done" lists. I'm enjoying keeping a "done" list, noting down all the things I accomplish each day as I do them, so that's going well. When the list looks short, that motivates me to do a little more. It's figuring out what to "do" that is the problem. My master to-do list is too big -- I can't figure out what I should be doing from it. I've been writing tiny to-do lists at the bottom of the "done" lists (first thing in the morning, before I've "done" anything), to keep myself on track, and then copying numerous items over to the next day's "done" list when I don't do them -- might as well just have a to-do list! So this week I tried something different -- a weekly to-do list to help me with my "done" list. But that didn't work either. Too many things on the list, hard to tell which needed to be done when. I did a lot of things, but I forgot to do other things because I didn't spot them on the list.

This week I'm going to try the weekly to-do list again, but with a little more organization. I think I need separate sections, one for things that get done every day (dishes, my walk, litter boxes), one for things that have to be done on specific days (appointments, cleaning tasks designated for a particular day), and one for things that could be done on any day. And perhaps those need to be broken down into types of things (phone calls, emails, chores, errands). 

Oh, I don't know. It's all so hopeless. But things are worse if I don't try at all. I keep wondering: are most people's to-do lists actually I-don't-want-to-do lists? That's what mine are. The things I want to do, like read, don't have to go on the list. I spend a lot of time trying to get myself to STOP doing those things, so I will do the things on the to-do list instead. If only.

This was a strange week because we had that unexpected four-day weekend, with the kids getting the Friday after the Thursday holiday off because the district didn't have enough personnel to staff the schools. Once again, I thought very strongly about applying to be a substitute. I'm still thinking about it. On the one hand, I don't want to give up my lovely days alone. On the other hand, the schools really need people like me. People who don't need to make a large income or receive "benefits," who are happy to work here and there, now and then (though my understanding is that if I wanted to, I could probably work every day the kids are in school). I could even work just at the kids' school, to make things simple.

If Rocket Boy manages to move back to Colorado, as he is trying to do, and if he ends up working at home most of the time, I will need something else to occupy me. I get antsy when we're both home all day. If there ever comes a time when the kids don't live here anymore but we do, we can set up a desk for me in another room. But for now we ALL have our desks and computers in the "office," aka the "desk room," and I find it hard to work in there when RB is there too. We can hear each other typing, and it annoys him when I play a game of computer solitaire (he can tell by the pattern of the clicking). I, on the other hand, get annoyed because I know he's listening to my clicking. 

It's better if we can have a little bit of our own space, especially since we're so used to it now, after two and a half years mostly apart.

Tuesday was Teen B's band concert, which Teen A and I attended. We had gone to the choir and orchestra concert the week before -- to "support the music program," I told the boys, who did not want to go. I ended up crying all the way through that program, mainly because it was so wonderful to be back in the auditorium, watching and listening to kids perform. Fortunately, I was sitting alone, or else I would have embarrassed the boys horribly. But they were in the furthest back row, probably playing games on their phones. 

For the band concert, Teen A sat in that high back row, while I sat alone several rows forward, but I only cried a little. Adorably, some of Teen B's friends came to the concert and sat in that back row a little ways down from Teen A. I heard them call out to him, "Are you here to support your brother?" and his grouchy response, "I'm here because my mom made me." The friends (mostly girls) called out, "Go [Teen B]!" when he came on stage and were generally as cute as could be. I remembered coming to the band concert back in the fall of 2019 and observing big 8th graders calling to their friends in the band. The spring 2020 band concert was cancelled, as were the fall 2020 concert and the spring 2021 concert. Now here we were at the fall 2021 concert, my little pixie 6th graders suddenly turned into giant 8th graders. So strange.

Teen B's friends remind me a little of my teenage friends, kind of nerdy and loud and different. His are a little more LGBTQ than mine were, but that's the nature of 2021 vs. 1973. I had gay friends -- I just didn't know I did. Now (at least in this town, at the kids' school) it's more or less OK for 13-year-olds to be out. 

Teen A has a different group of friends, but I know very little about them. He won't tell me names, always very private. On Friday afternoons, he walks to the shopping center near the school with them, but when I go to pick him up, most of them have already left (they live close by and can walk home).

The other thing we did this week was participate in the Adolescent Brain Cognitive Development (ABCD) study at CU. This is our 5th year in the study, so it was an MRI year, but Teen B couldn't have one because of his braces. So only Teen A did the MRI, but they both had to give various biological samples (saliva, urine, blood, hair), answer endless questionnaires, and play games for money. While they were doing that, I sat in a little room by myself and answered my own series of endless questionnaires. Much less fun to do alone (Rocket Boy and I used to do it together) and while wearing a mask, but I survived. They ordered lunch for us and we sat together to eat it, joking about the questions. The kids get asked a lot of questions about drug use, which strike them as very funny. One of the drugs the study asks about is "snus," which I had never heard of, but apparently it is a type of smokeless tobacco popular in Sweden. We were joking that Teen A had eaten a snus brownie (I don't know if that's possible).

Two years from now, when we're back for more MRIs, the questions probably won't seem as funny because the kids will have more personal knowledge of the drugs. Sigh. Oh, high school, what do you have in store for us?

At the end of the long day they paid us: $200 for me, $210 for Teen A, and $190 for Teen B. Riches! Oh boy! They paid us mostly in $50 bills, so on Saturday, we went to the credit union and exchanged them for smaller bills. Teen A showed me that he can't even close his wallet right now -- all those tens and fives. Five years ago, that money meant so much to me! Now it's just pleasant. So strange to be in a situation where $200 doesn't really matter. I mean, I can't go around spending $200 here, there, and everywhere, but it's not a make-or-break amount of money.

I thought about spending the $200 on something special, but there isn't anything special that I really want. I could put it toward a new printer, but the printer we want is out of stock everywhere. Supply chain problems, and all that.

Teen A will spend his on video game stuff. It'll be gone quickly, but he'll enjoy it while it lasts. Teen B tends to save a lot of his money, but he also is currently enamored of "Piggy" paraphernalia. I let them buy things online and just give me the cash for it, so we've already put in a couple of small orders. I did let myself order a Barbie fashion pack that I've been not ordering because I thought it was too expensive. With free money, I figured I could buy it.

I could spend the $200 buying Christmas gifts, but I'm already wondering how on earth I'm going to find anything to put under the tree this year. Five years ago, that $200 would have helped me buy the kids Lego sets, but they don't play with Legos anymore. Some of the gifts I got them for their birthday last year still haven't been played with (games, a puzzle). We used to play games almost every night. Now it's all screens. Teen A did ask me for a pair of wireless earbuds. I guess I could wrap them in a big box, make them look more impressive on Christmas morning. But then I'll feel bad for wasting wrapping paper.

I could donate the money -- and I will, of course. Colorado Gives Day is coming up in a few weeks, and I'll spend more than $200 on that. 

What can I say? It's November, I'm feeling glum. Not desperately depressed or anything like that. Just November. November at the end of almost two years of Covid, with no end in sight. It's not a happy time.

I don't know what we're doing for Thanksgiving! We have made no plans. Rocket Boy thinks we should go somewhere, a quick trip, but where, exactly? He was thinking of Wyoming. I don't really want to go to Wyoming in November. Not to mention that their Covid rate is even higher than ours. Well, we'll figure something out. It will just be nice to be together.

Wednesday, November 10, 2021

Reading post: Waterlily

I have finished my tenth book for the Classics Challenge, because, as I said last week, I am spending November catching up with that. Only two more books to go! Today's book is Waterlily by Ella Cara Deloria, which was actually first published in 1988 (17 years after Deloria's death) but written in the early 1940s, so it qualifies for the Challenge. I chose it to fulfill category #2, "A 20th century classic," although it is historical fiction about the life of a Lakota woman sometime in the 19th century.

Ella Cara Deloria was born in 1889, about a month before my paternal grandfather was born 200 miles to the south. She was Yankton Dakota Sioux, from the reservation in southern South Dakota, and although her mother was 3/4 white, she had been raised as a traditional Dakota woman and brought her children up accordingly. Dakota was thus Ella's first language. Her father was one of the first Sioux to be ordained as an Episcopalian priest and Ella actually grew up on the Standing Rock Indian Reservation among the Lakota people, so she was familiar with both Dakota and Lakota dialects (they're very close). She earned a B.Sc. from Columbia Teachers College, part of Columbia University, in 1915, and while there became acquainted with the anthropologist Franz Boas, who recruited her to do linguistic work among the Sioux.

Earlier this year I read a really interesting book (Gods of the Upper Air: How a Circle of Renegade Anthropologists Reinvented Race, Sex, and Gender in the Twentieth Century by Charles King) about Franz Boas and his students, who included Margaret Mead, Zora Neale Hurston, and Ella Cara Deloria. That's the first time I remember hearing about Deloria and the book painted a vivid, though brief, picture of her. I was thus delighted to be able to add Waterlily to my reading list. 

Deloria had a hard life. She trained as a teacher, and did work for several years in various Indian schools, teaching PE and dance. But she gave that up to do linguistics and anthropology for Boas -- for a pittance, and not a very reliable pittance at that. Sometimes she lived in her car because she couldn't afford an apartment. She could never afford to go to graduate school and become a "real" anthropologist. But I'm starting to think she was happier than I first thought, and reading Waterlily is what gave me that idea.

I'm getting ahead of myself! So, the book. I loved it! This might be my favorite of the ten books I've read so far this year for the Challenge. And I didn't expect that I would feel this way. The book looked rather forbidding, somehow, with that photo of Deloria in traditional dress on the cover. It was published by the University of Nebraska press, and books from university presses never look like they're going to be much fun. In addition, I knew that Deloria wrote the novel as a sort of fictional ethnography -- it is based on the work she did collecting stories from elderly Lakota people and also her translations of material that was collected by others in the 1800s.

That doesn't sound very inspiring, does it? But the book is marvelous, even though its ethnographic origins are obvious. Deloria includes explanations of all the things her characters do, which ought to make the book wooden, unreadable. Instead, it is charming and engaging. The characters come alive, especially Waterlily, and her mother Blue Bird, who gives birth to Waterlily on the third page of the book while on a march with her "camp circle" to a new site. The rest of the book covers the lives of the two women up until Waterlily is about 20 and embarking on a new phase of her life. We follow them, and the rest of whichever camp circle they belong to at the moment, as they go through the good times and the hard times -- and there are many of both. We learn all about the Lakota and their customs and traditions, especially the women but also the men, since one of Deloria's sources was stories collected by a young Sioux man in 1887.

I think one thing that made the book enjoyable was that the action takes place at the very beginning of contact between the Sioux and the white man. Waterlily's people are aware that white people exist, but they know very little about them. As the book goes on, white people gradually begin to worm their way into the story, but they are always kept on the periphery. The only one I recall who is given a name is Lean White Man, a friend of Waterlily's "social father" (the father of her brother's close friend). There is mention of how more and more Sioux are using white men's guns, and at one point Waterlily's camp circle creates a large food cache in case the whites kill all the buffalo and the Lakota are in danger of starvation. So you know the crisis is coming. But, thankfully, it doesn't come in this book. On the last page, Waterlily is a happy woman, and I was happy to leave her there. That is, I wanted to know more about her, but I didn't really want to hear the sad stories that were undoubtedly ahead, so I was OK with the book ending at that point.

I just realized that this is the only book I have read this year that is like this, the only one that is about Indian life, not Indian life ruined by whites. It's possible that I should have read it first (or maybe second, after The Last of the Mohicans) because it is based on stories told by people who lived in the 1800s. Obviously, you can never forget the terrible things done to Indians by white people, but it's nice to have one story just about Indian culture.

All the qualms I had about the previous book I read for the Challenge, The Man Who Killed the Deer, are absent here because I know Deloria is absolutely qualified to tell this story, with her knowledge and background. And she makes no attempt to describe the Lakota as otherworldly and in touch with higher powers in a way that white people aren't. The Lakota are presented as being extremely different from white people, but the difference is explained. The main thing motivating the Lakota is their system of kinship, which governs every aspect of their behavior. Also, generosity and hospitality are highly valued, so giving things makes them happy, not getting things. 

I mentioned earlier that reading the book caused me to view Deloria differently. In the book Gods of the Upper Air, she seemed like a sad case. What's mentioned in all the biographical sketches I've read of her is that she was desperately poor in part because of her family obligations. She supported her sister and her aging parents. Also, of course, Boas paid her very little, though he would have liked to pay her more. But two things are clearer to me now. First, she loved doing the anthropological work and was grateful to be paid anything for it. Second, since she was raised traditionally, kinship ties must have been extremely important to her. As a Dakota, especially since she was unmarried, her first priority would have been her siblings (including that dependent sister). So it doesn't make sense to view her as a typical white person who would have chafed under those family burdens. Waterlily would not have seen them as burdens. I'm guessing that Deloria was probably mostly OK with the situation, even though she would have appreciated more funding and the chance to learn more anthropology.

I would like to know more about Deloria. Supposedly there's a biography being written, by Susan Gardner who wrote the introduction to the 2009 edition of Waterlily. I would definitely read that. But I recommend this book to anyone who would like to read a novel about Native American culture. I liked it more and more as it went along. I should also note that I used it as my bedtime book -- not because it made me sleepy, but because it wasn't disturbing. I could read a chapter and then have a good night's sleep.

Sunday, November 7, 2021

November summer

We are having a lovely bit of Indian Summer -- we had a "killing frost" right after Halloween but now this weekend it is in the 70s. At the moment, according to the Weather Service webpage, it is 77 degrees somewhere in Boulder, the sun is shining brightly, and the sky is a brilliant blue. Tomorrow it will only be 61.

Indian Summer is a funny term. It feels vaguely derogatory, so I read up on it a bit and now I can't decide. It describes a positive thing -- who doesn't love a little warm weather after some really cold weather, before we dip down deep into winter? And yet, hmm. In different parts of Europe it's called things like "Old Women's Summer," "Poor Man's Summer," and "Gypsy Summer." Indians, old women, poor men, and gypsies. Not a group that usually gets associated with positive things. I don't know what to do with this and neither does anyone else. There's no obvious replacement term (though see my blog post title above).

When I turned over the calendar on Monday I was struck by how short November is -- on account of Thanksgiving week. That is, the month is a full 30 days, but there are only three weeks of school and then a week off (with, OK, two little days after that, but they'll go by quickly and then it will be December). One week is gone already, so only two more. Plus, next Thursday is a holiday (Veteran's Day) and the school district is giving us Friday off too, because they don't have enough staff to keep the schools open. So it's really more like two and a half weeks. The month feels over already.

Little reminders that the world is still nuts: never before Covid did the school district shut down because they couldn't staff the schools. 

Also, constant "supply chain" problems. I should be used to it by now, but I'm not -- it freaks me out when the grocery store is out of some basic item. For the past few months or so, the grocery stores in our area have been low on Fancy Feast cat food. Since our cats eat two cans a day, that's a problem. They won't eat fancy pet store food like Chester and Pie used to eat. Nope, they like the cheap stuff. Normally, King Soopers has over 30 varieties available, and I buy 20 or more every couple of weeks. We have our favorites -- Sillers struggles with "pate style" so I get "grilled" or "flaked" or "with gravy."

Now, no store has much of anything. I make the rounds -- King Soopers, Target, Safeway, Walmart. At each store I pick up a couple of cans. This past week all King's had was a few cans of pate. As you see above, right now I have enough to last us four more days. Then I get to hunt again. It's like Soviet Russia!

I also haven't been able to buy their dry food, Purina Cat Chow Naturals -- "Indoor." I found a sack of "Regular" so they're eating that. Fortunately they're not super fussy cats.

On the plus side, Safeway is currently stocking Hachiya persimmons! Normally we can only get the more portable Fuyu variety, and even those are hard to find. The twins love persimmons, taught to do so by their father. I'm not a fan, so it works out perfectly. I cut a persimmon in quarters and they greedily inhale it.

I should note that persimmons cost $3.99 each. This is very funny to me, because growing up in California, persimmons were free! Nobody bought persimmons in a store, you got them from your neighbor who had a persimmon tree! One year I remember my cousin Ian's wife Ellyn sent me and Rocket Boy home from a visit with a large box of Hachiya persimmons. He ate every one (this was pre-twins) with delight.

Ah, food. Always a challenge, even now when we are wealthy enough to afford $3.99 persimmons. I have been doing about as well/badly with dinner as I always do. I manage to cook two or three times a week, and the rest of the time we have leftovers, eat out (usually just once a week), or I make something stupid like scrambled eggs or sandwiches.

I have so much trouble deciding what to cook! Apparently, if random people's comments on cooking blogs can be believed, other people have "rotations," which are I guess lists of main courses that people "rotate" through. People on these blogs are always saying, in the comments, "Adding this to the rotation!" I always wonder -- how many dishes do you have in your "rotation"? Do you go through it in order, so does lentil soup always follow shrimp tacos, or do you mix and match a little? And, the big question -- do you really have a rotation, or are you just saying that because everyone else is?

I used to have a sort of rotation. It was a list of "Dinners We Like," created when the boos were small, and I actually used to pick things off of it to cook. The list was organized by days -- Monday was soup/salad day, Tuesday was seafood day, Wednesday was egg/chicken day, Thursday was pasta day, Friday was Mexican day, Saturday was pizza day, and Sunday was breakfast for dinner day (which it still often is). I worked with that "rotation" for a long time, but except for Sunday, eventually gave it up (though I still often feel the urge to make soup on Monday). It became very boring to always have pasta on Thursday, Mexican food on Friday. Plus, what about leftovers?

Recently I've been having some luck with choosing a "cookbook of the week." Two weeks ago I went with Moosewood, the original one, which I used to cook out of a lot but haven't done much with recently. I made Arabian Squash Cheese Casserole (I liked it, boos didn't), Spinach Rice Casserole (which Teen A pronounced the best thing I'd made in ages, and why didn't I make things like that all the time), and Apple Cheese Pancakes (I liked them, boos didn't). 

But this past week I went back to random recipes. I made Zucchini Butter Spaghetti, which is a recent Smitten Kitchen recipe, and even though everyone in the comments was absolutely going to "add it to the rotation," the twins were distinctly unimpressed. 

We're having the leftovers this evening, after ignoring it for the past couple of days. It'll undoubtedly be even more popular tonight.

I would have missed this if my sister hadn't pointed me towards it: a wonderful short piece in the New Yorker about a month ago called "The Stress-Free Family Meal Plan" by Kate Sidley. It's supposed to be humorous, of course, but what's creepy about it is that it's so accurate. (I looked Kate Sidley up and she only has a baby, so apparently she doesn't know about this stuff from personal experience. Still, she got it right.) I've read it over and over, as you can probably tell from the condition of my copy in the photo. 

Mixed in with comments on how the world is ending are actual meal plans. On Monday the mom makes "an easy, vegetarian three-bean chili," on Tuesday she does veggie burgers wrapped in lettuce, on Wednesday she tries to make a tuna noodle casserole but ends up ordering pizza, Thursday is sandwiches, Friday is frozen dinners ("your kids will get a decade's supply of sodium"), Saturday is cereal, and Sunday is taco night. Excuse me, Taco night! Can't forget the exclamation point.

The article begins well:

...I know how hard it can be to provide your family with nutritious dinners that are also tasty, eco-conscious, cookbook-cover-worthy, and affordable. But because of misogyny built into the very fabric of our society, I'm somehow expected to!

I loved that. But then I think about things I've already said in this blog post, such as making fun of commenters on cooking blogs who talk about their "rotations." And you understand that these commenters are almost all female, at least 90% of them. I don't know what men do. Mostly, of course, they don't handle family dinner. But those who do, do they not read cooking blogs? Or just not comment? I don't know. All I know is, there is a huge world of women out there who write and/or comment on cooking blogs. And say things like "Adding this to the rotation!" And perhaps I should think twice about making fun of them. We're all just trying to get through life.

The New Yorker piece is full of funny bits, like this one:

Eco-tip! Use reusable bowls, utensils, and straws, but somehow never wash them because that wastes water. It's a real Catch-22, which is a book you know well since you had to teach it to your kids in remote school last year.

And this:

THURSDAY: You know those videos in which perfectly manicured moms use multicolored batter to make fun cartoon-character pancakes for their delighted children? You don't know how to do that. Sandwiches.

She also compares meal-planning to "playing a sonata on the deck of the Titanic," implying over and over that it is crazy to be doing this while the world is falling apart. And yet, people get hungry. Little, growing people. And you have to feed them. And it's (slightly) easier to do that if you plan ahead and have the right ingredients in the house to make the meals that you've planned.

And eventually, despite your best intentions, you might end up with a rotation.

Food. I am actually very hungry right now, as I type this. I'm trying to get back into normal eating after going through October primarily fueled on chocolate. I've put away my Halloween candy tray-thing and stopped buying candy (that is, I haven't bought any in the past week), and I've been pretty good about not stealing from the kids' stashes. Thus, I'm constantly starving. Also, now there's the time change to mess everything up. Today so far I've had a pot of tea, cereal, prune juice, a medium Starbucks pumpkin spice latte, a cranberry bliss bar because they were out of lemon bread, two pieces of french bread with butter, and a watermelon dum-dum. As soon as I finish this post, I'm going to go heat up the leftovers and make a salad.

One more thing about food: this week was the Day of the Dead and I celebrated it by setting up an ofrenda for Chester. Although this picture doesn't show it, in addition to the flowers and the photo I also put out a dish of food and a dish of water. Of course, Merlin and Priscilla found these dishes and consumed the contents, so I put out more. (Merlin also ate some of the marigolds, but I guess they aren't poisonous, because he seems fine.) I also scattered marigold petals from the ofrenda to the front door.

And then I lost my mind.

The Day of the Dead is not the same thing as Halloween. Halloween is supposed to be a day when spirits can cross over into the world of the living, but I've never heard that you're likely to see a ghost on the Day of the Dead. But I started watching for Chester's ghost. I became convinced (sort of convinced) that the ofrenda would draw him back to us, that I would look up and he would be there, back with us. 

On, I think, November 1st, I was petting Sillers in bed and I thought I heard a cat growling (not the Baby Kitty). But Chester never growled -- he was mute. 

I cleared off my bedside table so he would have room to jump up on it, as he always used to do.

He didn't come back. Or if he did, I didn't notice.

Just when I think I'm totally over his death, I realize I'm totally not.

But that's all over now. I've put away the food and water dishes, though his picture and the flowers are still on the table. If I put the flowers outside they'll freeze.

It's November.